When I first became acquainted with Reiki and experienced my first attunement, I felt I had been introduced into a new realm of existence. It seemed the potential for healing was incredible. I wanted to share it with everyone. Actually, I wanted to heal the whole world, but I didn’t know how.
In the United States during the 1940’s, something “Japanese” might not have been welcomed with open arms because of the World War II era. But even today, if you ask someone if they would like you to “do Reiki” on them, there’s a good chance they wouldn’t know what you are talking about. Many people today consider Reiki to be “New Age”, which is ironic as it is ancient.
It is impossible to “explain” Reiki to someone ingrained in western thought and medicine. But when you get down to it, you cannot explain it at all; it has to be experienced.
The whole point of “asking” someone if they would like Reiki is to give them the choice to say “no.” There’s something about the human experience that sometimes involves needing our pain. We hold onto it tightly enough. Maybe we are afraid to let it go because we don’t know what we will find in its place. Maybe our pain defines us and we wouldn’t know who we are without it. Any good therapist knows that you don’t take away a person’s defenses until they are ready.
When we receive Reiki for a particular problem, that problem can become intensified. If we are ill, it can actually make the symptoms worse as part of the ultimate healing. This is sometimes necessary for the healing to take place. Reiki does not just place a band aid on the wound, it brings the pain to the surface to be cleansed and healed. This can be an uncomfortable process. A person, who is already wounded, may not be ready, or strong enough, to handle this process. It may be too much.
People have a tendency to put their pain in neat little boxes and then pack them away, especially if the pain has been long term. As part of the healing process, Reiki can be an internal windstorm, making a mess of everything. This can be more disturbing than healing to the person not yet ready. We are all familiar with the upheavals attunements can facilitate.
To receive Reiki, one has to be able to “receive.” Sometimes, we are just not in that spot. And only the person can make that distinction. The Reiki Practitioner cannot.
So when someone says No to Reiki, it could be because of ignorance of Reiki itself, which education, like this website, will help. Or it could be they are not yet ready for the change that healing can bring. And we must respect that. It’s not about the Practitioner and their wishes; it’s about the person and their needs. Until they are ready to handle the healing, they are not ready for Reiki.
Janice Campbell has been practicing Reiki for 12 years. As a potter, she creates “Prayer Bowls” which can be used to deepen one’s meditative experience. Part of the process includes Janice directing the flow of Reiki into the bowls as she creates them. She lives in North Carolina with her husband, Ty, and son, Quincy. She also has a cranky, black cat named Cletis.