Over the time I’ve been writing for Reiki Rays, I’ve shared some experiences with other spiritual people that have been both wonderful and glorious and others who’ve been hurtful. I usually share what I’ve found disturbing about their behaviour, but I have never ever publicly or in an open forum named people or ever defamed or slandered them as I feel such an act is unnecessary and uncalled for. I have also always state when things are my opinion and from my perspective only. So what happens when spiritual people do openly and publicly attack?
Recently I’ve been targeted and viciously attacked in writing in an open forum by both spiritual and non-spiritual folk. Check out this comment, by a fairly new “spiritual” person to the Darwin area, whom I’ve never ever met.
I find it interesting that someone who has never met me nor knows my story; who I am; what I stand for and why I do the things I do, can possible comment on me at all. Here she is talking about me as though she is an expert on mental health, Autism and Asperger’s… keeping in mind I’ve never met her or had any services or work done by her (and never would I go to someone who openly attacks someone)
“I want to know how someone who is mentally unstable can hypnotise people!?“
It seems she is confusing Asperger’s a mental illness and stating I’m mentally unstable. I could have become very, very upset over this being publicly plastered in an open forum and all the other comments as well, which were quite damaging and nasty.
And to be honest, initially these attacks did worry me and upset me, because I know how far I’ve come in my life and what I’ve overcome and how I am so much more calm and peaceful and placid compare to the Tammy of old…..and then I realised – I have done nothing wrong and recently even posted an apology online for anyone and everyone whom I may have hurt (because my Asperger’s diagnosis came through late in life, only this year at 38) so there have been communication issues along my journey, and so I publicly posted this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EaddJR4RoQs
I don’t feel there has been anything massively wrong with my behaviour; the simple truth is these people are writing and commenting on a situation where they don’t know the full facts and the whole story.
Can I really blame these people for writing such harsh things about me when they don’t know the full story? When they’ve only go by their perspective on things without having met me? When they are ignorant and not have the ability/want/desire to understand? Can I really become upset by people who write things, even nasty and judgemental and slanderous things, when this says so much more about them than me?
No – I choose not to be upset. What I did instead was send beautiful Reiki healing energy to the nasty words, to the page these words appeared on and to the people who are writing and saying them. Also I sent Reiki to the people reading and believing the words written about me and my professional calling.
If some people in Darwin read these uneducated words about me and dump my site and don’t come to me as a healer/tarot/hypnotherapist because of the perceptions of others, that’s ok. They are not meant to be my clients. The universe always provides! I believe this, and I’m also worldwide and not just reliant on Darwin customers. The universe always provides enough.
I have no need to publicly name anyone. When I write, I write from my heart and from my experiences, but I have no need, want or desire to ruin anyone’s reputation or business. For those that have done this to me, I send them Reiki, love and forgiveness.
Please use Reiki to help you get through even the most trying times as I have been doing.
Instead of being upset by people who don’t know the truth, I’m excitedly concentrating on my new diagnosis of Asperger’s/Autism and fitting my life together and making sense of my life. Having my diagnosis has given me a sense of why life has been the way it has been, and now I can move forward and learn how to engage even better in the world. I’m excited and happy about knowing more about me, and educating where I can. I’ve a new angle for my business and that is the inclusion of Asperger’s education and I’m writing and sharing so much about this every day.
We all do what we need to do to get through in life.
I trust this helps you to understand that even the most trying times can be calmed with Reiki.
With love, light and harmony.
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Hello Tammy, I really feel for you, what an awful experience… I love your articles here and I’ve enjoyed your site, you are an inspiration! Hang on in there, and shine as you deserve to.
Hi Lucy, thanks so much for your message. I’m glad you’ve enjoyed the articles. I write from my experiences and from my heart and yes, I’ve been through some dreadful things and yet, they’ve taught me so much. The biggest lesson I’ve learned is to forgive myself for not being perfect and to forgive others for ignorance and nastiness. Spiritual people are not above ignorance and that’s ok, as that’s their journey. Big hugs to you Lucy. With love, light and harmony. Tammy xxx
What others think about is their mindset, not yours.. what you are is what you ever wanted to be.. not what they wanted you to become.. you are special.. if they have any issue let them stay there.. what you have is something they dont have.. so be proud of what you are and keep up doing the good work.
Love n light
Deepali
Thank you Deepali for your lovely message and reminder. Yes indeed, what and how others think is their own mindset and one cannot educate or change someone’s mindset if that person wants to stay there. Thank you so much for your message. Love, light and harmony. Tammy x
Hi Tammy! I love reading everyone’s writings on Reikirays. It gives me insight to the wonderment of Reiki. I think when people lash out it is their ignorance to the healing Reiki has to offer in all aspects of life. If they would only take the time to open their mind, body and soul to a Reiki session, the world would be a better place.
Love and light,
Denna
Hi Denna, thanks so much for your message. I’m so happy to hear you love reading all the different articles on Reiki Rays. Each writer contributes something so beautiful, I agree. Experience is something so wonderful and loving t0 share. Warm hugs. Love, light and harmony. Tammy xxx
Excellent post. I’m sure many of us can relate in some way to judgements of others when we do this work and you remind us all about the power of forgiveness and the use of Reiki energy in another way. Blessings to you Tammy
Hi Carol, thanks for your thoughts. The power of forgiveness is beyond anything else… forgiveness and love is the way to go. I have to remind myself sometimes though, when something really, really hurts, as we are all human.. however bouncing back into love and forgiveness comes much swifter now. big hugs to you. Tammy xxx
I can totally related to this Tammy and am sure You will come out of it faster than the people ‘commenting on you/your work’. Sometimes, you really can’t help it. You just need to bless such people and let them be.
Stay blessed always.
P.S. It’s a delight reading your articles whether I comment or not. 🙂
Hi Vedant. Thank you for your lovely comment. I’m glad you enjoy reading the articles. You are most welcome to comment whenever you feel the desire. I agree with you – some people we just need to bless and walk away from. Love, light and harmony. Tammy