Article by Haripriya Suraj, Reiki Master
How do you feel when you recall your childhood?
Does it bring feelings of warmth and happiness? Does it evoke feelings of sadness and pain?
Or does it lie somewhere in between, with neither an excess of happy or painful moments?
Some pointers of a wounded childhood are:
- Having parents that were unhappy together.
- Growing up in an environment where fights and drama were commonplace.
- Being an unwanted child that was born by accident.
- Being born a girl when the parents preferred a boy and vice versa.
- Being subject to physical abuse and violence.
- Being subject to emotional abuse, manipulation and frequent trauma.
- Being a victim of sexual abuse within the family.
- Suppression and being forced to do things against the will.
- Being forced to take on the role of parent. Parents confide in the child and get the child to take sides. The child is forced to be mature beyond his age and cannot live like a normal child.
- Lack of love in the family and cold home environment.
- Lack of cuddling and physical display of affection (especially for babies and younger children).
- Basic needs of physical care and comfort not met.
- Child abandoned or separated from parents (especially mother) at an early age.
- Death of one or both the parents.
If you can relate to any of the above points, it is quite likely that there is a wounded child still living inside you. The degree of childhood trauma varies from person to person. Reiki, being an intelligent energy, knows exactly how to facilitate healing in each individual. It can cause a direct healing and set you free in one go. In the case of deeper issues though, it may direct you to the right teachers, therapists, books and other resources that can help you heal your childhood. In order to heal fully, it is a good idea to connect frequently with the child within and to keep him or her happy. Once you take the initiative to heal your inner child, Reiki and the Universe will support you and guide you on further steps.
Connecting with Your Inner Child
Healing the inner child can be an intense yet enriching journey that usually happens in stages. While working independently, it can be a daunting task to figure out where to begin and how to go about healing your inner child. It’s best to start in simple ways and thereafter allow Reiki to show you the path.
Recognise the Inner Child: The first step to healing the inner child is to recognise the presence of the child in you. Many of us may not even be aware that there is a child still living in our adult bodies. You can recognise the child in you whenever you find yourself in the grip of intense emotions. This is especially true when your emotional outbursts feel illogical or unreasonable but you can’t help feeling them anyway. This is a sign that an unhealed part of you (your inner child) is calling out for attention. For example, moments when you strongly feel you are not good enough are a definite sign of trauma to the inner child. All children naturally feel they are good enough until they are repeatedly told by well meaning adults that they are not. They grow up believing this and relive this misery many times over. You can also recognise your inner child in those moments when you feel light, carefree and joyful for no reason. When you have fun, live in the moment and enjoy life, it is the work of your inner child.
Connect with the Inner Child: As you learn to recognise your inner child in day to day life, make an effort to connect with him or her. When you experience emotional turmoil that does not heal despite all effort, connect with your inner child using the distance symbol and give him or her some Reiki. Use a childhood picture of yours and give Reiki to the picture. You can also have a teddy bear or doll represent your inner child and give Reiki to it. Hug and comfort the teddy bear like you would comfort a troubled child. This is a powerful act that can help you heal your inner child. In moments of happiness, allow your inner child to surface again. Stop being a serious adult all the time! Whenever possible, play, have fun and enjoy life like a child. Have you seen children skipping around for no reason? Can you do that? ☺
You can do it in the privacy of your own space. Let your inner child come alive. It does not matter whether you are twenty or ninety. Age is just a number. The child is eternally alive in each of us. If you find it impossible to be like a child, spend time with young children and connect with their energies. That will help your own inner child come alive.
Reiki Practice and Other Resources: Finally, please practice self healing every day. When you hold an intention to heal and you are in constant touch with Reiki, you will be led to the right books, therapists and teachers that can help you heal your childhood. This works like magic and accelerates healing. For starters, you can read the book “Home Coming- Reclaiming and Championing your Inner Child” by John Bradshaw. It has fantastic information on healing the inner child and can serve useful on your journey to healing.
Healing our childhood is crucial as that is where many of our blocks have their roots. When you heal your childhood, you water the roots of your being and the effects start showing in other areas of your adult life. As you reclaim the natural spontaneity, innocence and magic that you so naturally had as a child, life blossoms like a beautiful flower and a new YOU that is wise, loving and powerful takes birth!
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Haripriya Suraj is a Reiki Master, Angel Healer, and Spiritual Teacher. She was drawn to Reiki right from her childhood and Reiki went on to become part of her life’s purpose. Reiki is her constant companion from which she derives peace and contentment. She is also deeply connected with the angels, with Angel Healing being an integral part of her Reiki practice. After reaping the fruits of Reiki practice in her life, she was inspired to spread the joy of Reiki and the light of the Angels. Haripriya offers courses in Reiki and Angel Healing as well as distance healing services. She resides in Bangalore, India. Reach Haripriya at firstname.lastname@example.org and Angel Light on Facebook.