Article by Ashwini Chubé
This is a very sensitive topic and I have noticed that it has been often ignored.
Many of us, if not all, face it in our daily lives just about anywhere – at social functions, workplace, or even while doing a random domestic errand. But we often fail to give it much of a thought or importance. We take it as a part of life and some of us try to empathize with the abuser trying to understand the reasons which makes them abuse; may be few us even think that we deserve it and try to find the fault in our own behaviour that leads the abuser to speak to us in this manner. But the truth is that we fail to recognize this as an abuse in the first place.
What is verbal abuse?
Verbal abuse means anything written or spoken with harsh words. It could be intentional or unintentional. Also hate mails or written communication including those via electronic media or written allegations are all part of verbal abuse.
The reason why we fail to recognize this as an abuse is because in most cases the abuser pretends to play the victim.
The most easily done damage by verbal abuse is on the solar plexus and throat chakras, thus giving long lasting impact on seat of power or the assertiveness of a person. A person who has been subject to verbal abuse might develop low confidence and may be afraid to speak out openly. In an extreme case the heart chakra and sacral chakra can get blocked too, thus making the person incapable to show his or her feelings to the world and in worst case, close out completely to the world.
Verbal abuse can be put in 2 categories:
Intentional and Unintentional
Anything with an intent to hurt falls in this catagoery. We can further classify this into:
1. Face to face and spoken
Anything spoken directly to a person with an intention to hurt him or her in raised voice or in a harsh manner falls under this category. Harsh words in telephonic conversations can be put into this category too.
Face to face communication with eye contact with the victim, especially using raised voice on the victim has the worst impact than any other category.
Abusive bosses who point out errors at work in an insulting manner, teachers who reprimand their students by shouting or by using harsh words, a stranger on street who is rude to you for no reason, bullying ragging/hazing done by peers, etc.
Sarcastic comments, snide remarks also fall under this category. Where the abuser is not in a position to say things directly they resort to this method.
Taunts, sarcastic comments. Also any comments made indirectly to mock someone or to make fun of them.
2. Written communication
This is usually done by sending letters, e-mails, sms, comments on social networking websites, instead of speaking face to face. Usually the abuser is a kind of person who is afraid to confront but wants to vomit poison. This kind of abuse seeps in the victim’s aura gradually and creates problems and scars in their aura.
Hate emails, hate messages on social media, negative criticism on blogs including those from “anonymous ” sources.
This is a tricky one. Often done by someone who loves and cares for you and wants you to be perfect in everything, this abuse is done by people who themselves have with shrunk/enlarged or blocked chakras. The verbal abuse happens when they use harsh words out of their own unbalanced heart chakra and an extremely faulty throat chakra. But an abuse without an intention doesn’t do less harm.
A close relative or friend who loves you but is very domineering and pushy and might use harsh criticism out of sheer concern to make you do “better”.
Role of Reiki
Reiki can do wonders for both the abuser and the victim; usually Reiki does exceptionally wonderful to heal the scars.
In most cases, the abuser will be a stranger or even someone who will not be receptive to Reiki. Remember one of the first ethics of Reiki: You cannot give Reiki to someone without their consent. However we can give Reiki to their guardian angels and seek their permission to send it to the person or their higher self whenever they wish to receive.
Quick steps to send healing to the abuser
- Draw the master symbol and distance symbol to connect to the guardian angels of that person.
- Now draw the emotional healing symbol.
- Request the guardian angels to send healing to the heart, throat or solar plexus chakra.
- Use the healing symbol again.
- You may also feel guided to send healing to the sacral or root chakra, especially if the abuser themselves had issues in past.
- Keep sending healing.
- Once you feel healing is done, draw a giant power symbol and seal it.
Usually the victim is the one who will be affected and will come for healing. Again in most cases, the victim won’t even know he/ she has been abused. They might approach you for emotional healing or might just say they need to cry out. Very often, the verbal abuse creates distortion of aura which may look like physically punching or in extreme cases, like daggers or knives in the backbone. Experts call these as psychic attacks.
Once you have identified these you have to treat the following chakras: heart chakra, solar plexus, sacral chakra and additionally ear chakras.
Quick Steps to send healing to the victim
- Use the master symbol and healing symbol to heal the wounds.
- Use the distance symbol to go in the past of the client.
- Reiki may further show you wounds when you see from your third eye chakra.
- Keep chanting Archangel Raphael’s name to heal them and Archangel Michael’s name to protect them from psychic attacks.
- Cutting of cords will be a good idea too, thus helping the victim to let go and forgive the abuser.
Comments and tips
There are some people who use this verbal abuse directed to them for their own betterment. They start thinking about the words said to them, get motivated, accept challenge, attain success and evolve mentally as stronger and successful person. However not all are as self-confident, and especially the sensitive ones can be harshly affected. Even though the abuse is hurled at them to bring out good in them, it often results in exactly the opposite.
In any case, the motive may or may not be wrong, but the use of verbal abuse definitely is. Remember – shouting, yelling and raising voice or using bad words and abuses are not a sign of strength but a sign of weakness.
True and pure love doesn’t force anything on anyone. Even while correcting someone, avoid using harsh words and raised voice. This can spread the message faster and bring out a positive outcome for the highest good of all.
Love and blessings!
After doing her MBA in finance and working for 8 years in investment banking Ashwini discovered her life purpose and decided to make a choice to be a transformational trainer, life coach, motivational speaker, and a spiritual teacher. She says Reiki helped her find her soul mission.
In 2016 May Ashwini founded Unicorn Insight – a corporate training company. Unicorn Insight trained over 100 people in the first 15 months. Ashwini also founded and runs a recruiting and networking firm – Tree of life. Ashwini has co-founded Urja Wellness and Joy for wellness and all these brands are now part of the Unicorn Group.
Ashwini is a master teacher of Usui Reiki, Violet Flame healing, Angelic healing and is an Access bars facilitator. She has been certified as a trainer by Dale Carnegie. Ashwini is also a mind trainer, an angel card, and tarot reader as well as a teacher and conducts workshops on Reiki, Violet flame, Law of Attraction, Gratitude, Vision Boards and Angels, Unicorns, Dragons, Akashic records and is a certified Fairiologist. She is a regular speaker at HELP talks Mumbai. The Breakthrough workshop is a life-changing workshop where she teaches tools to empower and change your life.
Get in touch with Ashwini through her Website: www.unicorninsight.com or at firstname.lastname@example.org. Her Facebook page is: www.facebook.com/unicorninsight