Article by Haripriya Suraj, Reiki Master
What do these two words bring up for you? Do they give you feelings of peace and warmth? Or do they bring up feelings of pain, betrayal or indifference?
A lot of people grow up with fairy tale notions of love and romance. This isn’t surprising because children are fed fairly tales and movies of Prince Charming and Princess Perfect from an early age. Many of them grow up believing that once they find their very own Prince Charming or Princess Perfect, their lives will continue happily ever after!
When these children grow into adults and get into romantic relationships, many of them land in bitter disappointment. They realise that romantic relationships are not set in the fairy land of their imagination, but in practical reality. Some of these people feel betrayed and give up on romantic love. They dismiss it as painful and not worth it. Others feel they don’t deserve it. Yet others become cynical and close all doors to it.
Dear Friends, romantic love is not about settling down with Prince Charming or Princess Perfect. It is not something that we look for so that life continues happily ever after. It is not something given to us by our partners. It is something we create. You have the power to create a romantic relationship that feels magical to you! Just don’t depend on external factors to bring you this magic.
The power is in your hands. The love is in your heart. And once power and love come together, magic happens!
Here’s how you can kick start your journey toward building the perfect romantic relationship or bring in more love and romance if you’re already in one (includes marriage).
1. Practise daily self healing with Reiki. This is the most important and simplest way to create the love you want. So many people are attuned to Reiki but not all practise daily self healing. Daily self healing helps your energies stay clean and clear. Reiki will help heal personal baggage that may be blocking your path to love. It will also help you let go of people and situations that no longer serve your highest good, so that new energies can come in. So, if you are stuck with a partner who cares little about love in the relationship, Reiki can help you let go of this relationship and to subsequently find one that is better suited to you.
2. Love yourself. Love yourself. Love yourself. There is no way you can attract great love or sustain it unless you love yourself first. When we don’t love ourselves enough, we subconsciously expect our partners to complete us. This is unhealthy for the relationship. In terms of energy, a lack of self love will attract partners who are also on the lookout for someone that can complete them. A relationship in which both partners depend on each other to feel complete will not sustain for long. And even if it does, the chemistry will fly out of the window once the courtship phase is over. So, start loving yourself. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to love yourself as you are- flaws and everything. Be confident about who you are. This will help you attract a healthy romantic relationship.
3. Make a list of the things you wish to have in common with your romantic partner and give Reiki to it every day. Allow Reiki to bring you in contact with your ideal match. It is impossible (and probably boring) to find someone who is your match in every way. However, it makes sense to find someone whose interests, dreams and ambitions match yours, especially in the important aspects of everyday life. If you want children and your partner is not for it, it will not help the relationship. If you are academically oriented, you may fare better with someone who is also academically inclined than with a DJ or movie star! Or vice versa.
4. If you are already in a happy relationship or marriage, but wish to spice things up a bit, learn to look at your relationship with fresh eyes. Remember how exciting things were when you and your partner first met? Everything seemed perfect in spite of your minor differences. Why should those small differences become obstacles now? Accept your partner as he or she is. Celebrate your differences. Keep your focus on love. When you look at your partner or spouse, look from your heart chakra and not from your Ego. Feel the love pouring out of your heart chakra and embracing this person exactly as he or she is. This is powerful and ensures the free flow of love in the relationship.
Know that you deserve to be in a soulful romantic relationship. Romantic love is not all about betrayal and pain. Contrary to popular belief, romantic love does not diminish with time. If you take responsibility for your romantic life, you can create magic. You can enjoy love and romance all through your life and watch it grow stronger with every year that you spend with your beloved.
Haripriya Suraj is a Reiki Master, Angel Healer, and Spiritual Teacher. She was drawn to Reiki right from her childhood and Reiki went on to become part of her life’s purpose. Reiki is her constant companion from which she derives peace and contentment. She is also deeply connected with the angels, with Angel Healing being an integral part of her Reiki practice. After reaping the fruits of Reiki practice in her life, she was inspired to spread the joy of Reiki and the light of the Angels. Haripriya offers courses in Reiki and Angel Healing as well as distance healing services. She resides in Bangalore, India. Reach Haripriya on her blog at lightworkersonearth.com, on email at firstname.lastname@example.org and on Facebook at Angel Light.