The balance of the feminine and masculine on the planet has been off for decades, or maybe centuries now, and contrary to our belief that it mainly hurts women, it actually hurts everyone. We haven’t just placed men on the pedestal, but masculine values and principles. We all have an inner feminine and masculine, and as the external percolates down to the internal, an imbalance in the outer world will invariably disrupt our inner balance.
- The masculine aspect within us is the outward focused, materialistic aspect of us that seeks and finds security, stability and material prosperity. It values power, possession and conquest. When out of balance, the inner masculine can manifest as controlling, overly materialistic, aggressive, power-hungry and dominating behaviour.
- The feminine aspect within us is the inward focused, spiritual aspect that seeks and finds connection, love and physical and emotional nourishment. When out of balance, the inner feminine can manifest as manipulative, clingy and needy, submissive, or passive behaviour.
There is a clear attempt to balance this out in the external world, and we can all do our bit to balance ourselves deep within as well. Here are a few things we can do to bring more balance within ourselves.
Slow Down
Nature does not continuously progress. Rest is a critical, integral part of life, and we have forgotten this. We run around all day to build a beautiful garden, without ever stopping to smell or appreciate the roses that come and wither away. Take a little focus away from the to-do lists and the ambitious plans and allow yourself all the rest your body, mind and spirit requires. Stop and smell those roses, take that time out to appreciate the way the light falls on your loved one’s face, sleep more, love more.
A lovely bath with candles and essential oils or a long warm shower after a relaxing massage is a wonderful way to celebrate yourself this Women’s Day! Remember to Reiki the oils, candles and bath water or the showerhead.
Observe. Listen. Connect.
We all talk these days, either verbally or on social media, and listening is fast becoming a disappearing art. For the coming week, promise to not interrupt anyone, and to truly listen when they speak. Listen to yourself when you speak too. Slow down enough to observe people, reactions, words and life in general.
Flood the person you are speaking with, or use the distant healing symbol to connect more deeply with the people you converse with.
Receive. Absorb.
Once we start to listen, we become more aware of what is being sent our way, and more often that not, we find that receiving even the good things is actually overwhelming or simply embarrassing. Accept that compliment with grace, allow yourself to receive the love being offered, and open yourself to receiving whatever abundance and also challenges life brings your way. You deserve all the abundance you receive, and you are strong enough to face all the challenges presented to you.
Celebrate your feelings
We’re shaming people more and more for feeling the way they feel. Feelings can be processed in three different ways. We’re normally only aware of two of these – suppression and expression. There is a third, balanced approach where we simply feel an emotion. We move past the thoughts it triggers, label the exact emotions we are feeling, hopefully identify the part of the body where we feel it the most, maybe journal about it and simply hold that emotion in our awareness.
We’re taught to be afraid of difficult emotions, but just like a person is a better fighter if she is not afraid of pain rather than if she was trying to avoid pain, we are emotionally more resilient if we are not afraid of emotional pain but simply open to letting it come and go. Feeling our emotions more deeply allows us to experience life much more fully and also prevents emotions from taking over and controlling us.
One easy way to connect with your feelings through Reiki is to scan your body for tightness and then draw the distant healing symbol to connect with that part of yourself. Draw the emotional healing symbol to then help you experience this emotion more deeply. Follow this up with the physical healing symbol to ground and anchor you into making peace with your feelings.
Give in to artistic expression
One of the most beautiful and effective ways to cope with out of balance feelings is to release them into some form of art. Remember that art is never about being the best, but about enjoying the process. Connect with the dance floor or the canvas using the distant healing symbol or flooding, and let your emotions flow through as art.
Honor the irrational – listen to your inner wisdom
Feminine inner guidance doesn’t always make sense, in fact it frequently defies all logic. Regular Reiki practice significantly improves your capacity to listen to your inner guidance, especially if you are spending enough time healing the back chakras and the lower chakras.
We’ve all learned to appreciate the value of doing, goal-setting, ambition and desire. My wish for the world is that we learn to appreciate the value of being, resting, flowing with life and surrendering to Divine will. Happy Women’s Day!
Article by Ashwita Goel, Reiki Master
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Having learned Meditation as a child, Ashwita incorporated Reiki into her life during her early teens. After a decade of witnessing the magic Reiki, she felt compelled to take up Reiki professionally, and ended her corporate career in 2007, taking up Reiki full-time. She eventually incorporated EFT, hypnotherapy and past life therapy into her work. Apart from her healing work, she teaches Reiki and meditation, and her book ‘Healing Through Reiki’ is available on Amazon. She holds regular full moon and new moon meditations at @AshwitaGoel. Her website is www.reiki-bangalore.com and her blog www.ashwita.com
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