The problem we have with mistakes is most people don’t like them and either deny them, try to distance themselves from them or pick a fight with them through resistance. All of which ensures the very thing we want rid of sticks around. Unfortunately, most people view mistakes as a measurement of self-worth and self-esteem and personal competency, in their mind their mistakes are testament to us being crap at life and crap as a person. Now the secret of mistakes is seeing them in their true light, for what they actually are and not what we have been conditioned to believe about making mistakes.
What many people don’t understand is conditioning is covert; we can see the effects of conditioning but be totally oblivious to the covert cause we just accept as normality, or worse still ‘’truth’’. Conditioning favours the person using it as a form of control and unless we have the knowledge, or life experience, to understand what’s happening we simply accept the conditioning as our own creation. Which it becomes through the power of our intention. To say “It’s just the way I am’’ is a lie based on the fake identity you have accepted. If you have no idea of who you are, you will have even less idea of what you are, or why you are the way you are.
The old adage is very true; what you resist will persist. It has no choice in the matter because you are solidifying its existence by feeding it your energy. Resistance is an invitation for the thing you don’t want to come into your life and make itself comfortable, and as in all healing “prevention is better than a cure’’ and far less painful. But prevention requires knowledge and understanding and clarity of the problem facing us, this provides us with the tools we need to resolve the situation before it has the chance to become established.
Change your perception and you change the circumstances that have your attention. Change how you view the whole process of making mistakes and the cause and effect equation takes on a completely different dynamic. You are in effect stepping away from the conditioned victim mode and reclaiming power over the situation. You always had this power; you never lost it, you simply misplaced it and forgot where it was. Looking at the process with a fresh pair of eyes (clear vision) we can see the mistake is not the mistake we think it is. The real mistake is hanging onto the mistake instead of the lesson it provided us with. The lessons we need to learn are in the consequences of our actions. We are all an imperfect work in progress so the mistake is who you were, the lesson is who you are now, and how well you learn the lesson will determine who and what you become.
As long as we see mistakes as something to be avoided at all costs we will ensure we keep making the same mistakes over and over again through the power of our creative intention. Repetition of the mistake simply shows we don’t understand the level of conditioning exerting control over us, or the basic principles at work. If we are repeating the same mistake over and over again it shows we haven’t learnt the lesson being presented to us, so the solution isn’t resistance, it’s education. Before there is something that must be done, there is always something that must first be understood. First know, then do; it saves a lot of hard work and hardship.
Personal responsibility scares the crap out of us but it’s the seat of our power and control, with it we can accept no one is coming to save us and more importantly, we don’t need anyone to save us, we have all the power we need to secure our own salvation and survival. But to do this we must accept responsibility for the situations we create in our lives through the choices we make, and the decisions we make on a daily basis. Mistakes are a brilliant example of the power of our creative intention and once you can grasp this fundamental principle, you must also accept the power to create, have within it, the power to change and recreate.
Misplaced guilt is a major factor in why we don’t learn as quickly as we should, or could. All guilt is misplaced and a total waste of time, it’s also toxic and as such a very painful destructive, unhealthy condition. Guilt isn’t obligatory; it’s a personal choice and ineffectual as a motive for change as it tends to keep us trapped in the past as we feed it more and more of our energy. If you want to feel guilty that’s your choice, but if you do you owe it to yourself to ensure the guilt isn’t some perverse form of punishment and self-abuse triggered by a lack of self-worth and poor self-esteem.
Education is the primary motivation for personal change; knowledge and understanding are the true physicians of healing for without them in attendance healing of any condition, on any level be it mind, body or spirit is impossible. Mistakes offer us a front row seat so we can get up close and personal and accept the situation created through the power of our intention. It also offers us the chance to ask ourselves, “what are we going to do about it’’. If we can create crap in our lives through poor or inappropriate life choices, we must also accept the power and responsibility to create for ourselves a quality of life that lies just beyond our current level of knowledge and understanding of what is possible for us to achieve. Creative intention is a beautiful thing and comes to us in many ways; it patiently sits outside our comfort zone waiting for us to leave those “mistakes’’ behind and take the time to discover how powerful we truly are.
Article by Phillip Hawkins
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A Reiki practitioner since 1999, Phillip started teaching Reiki in 2000 and using those skills and abilities he has spent the majority of the last seventeen years working with a wide range of social and educational needs including Autism and ADHD. Working with addicts dependent on alcohol and drugs, people whose lives were extremely violent and abusive, and others who had to deal with severe mental health issues. This has enabled him to work extensively in the private sector, schools, colleges, education and care in the community, the prison service and psychiatric units.
In 2016, Phillip decided to semi-retire from full-time employment to concentrate on developing his career as a published author and the setting up of his Reiki personal development programme at the Chilton Community College.