Article by Haripriya Suraj, Reiki Master
The news of pregnancy brings great joy to the expectant parents and to the entire family. Carrying a child in the womb feels like a miracle. Many mothers (and fathers) begin bonding with their child right from the time that the baby is just a cluster of cells. With every passing day and month, the excitement builds and everyone eagerly awaits the birth of the little bundle of joy. But sometimes, things go wrong midway and the growing foetus is miscarried. At other times, a child is lost as a result of pregnancy complications and stillbirth. Pregnancy loss is a fairly common occurrence but that does not make it any less painful for the expectant mother and father.
Women who experience pregnancy loss often experience sadness, anger and even depression at times.
If you are a woman who has lost a child through miscarriage, stillbirth or other pregnancy complications, the following tips can help you heal the memory as well as any residual pain that may be present in your energy field. It can also be of benefit to men whose partners have gone through this. If you are a professional Reiki practitioner, it can help you assist clients who have had such losses.
1. Allow Yourself to Grieve
It does not matter whether the foetus was lost early in the pregnancy or at a much later stage. The pain you feel is valid. In order to heal, you must first acknowledge the pain without trying to justify that the baby was not fully developed, not yet born etc. Well meaning folks might make such statements in the hope that it will help you feel better. But the fact is that such explanations only mask the pain. Grieving is a necessary part of any healing process related to loss. When grief is unexpressed, it blocks the heart chakra. It is very important for you to give yourself the permission to grieve, without feeling guilty. Cry all you want and get it out of your system. If you had this loss a long time ago and have buried the pain, you can still initiate healing by giving yourself the permission to grieve right now.
2. Heal with Reiki
Reiki can be sent to all events that happened in the past. Alongside grieving, also send some Reiki to this occurrence of loss and its memory. Connect with the incident using the distance symbol and invoke the mental-emotional symbol as you activate the flow of Reiki. Masters must also use the Master symbol. Reiki will help all remnants of pain rise to the surface, thereby allowing healing to take place. If you have a picture of yourself when you were pregnant, get it out and give some Reiki to it. Place your hands over your womb and send Reiki to it. If you feel like crying as you heal, allow the tears to flow. Do not hold back.
3. Acknowledge the Child’s Presence
The process of grieving can take a few weeks or months, depending on how completely you allow yourself to experience it. The more you allow it to happen, the faster it will heal. Meanwhile, it is also important for you to acknowledge that this lost being was your child, even if only for a brief while. Do not try to pretend like this incident never happened or that such a being never existed. Give this baby its due place in your life. This will heal powerfully. If the loss happened in your first pregnancy, allow yourself to acknowledge that this was your first child. Know that it is safe for you to give this child a place in your heart. This will bring love into the picture, which will wash over the pain.
You do not have to mope forever, make yourself feel like a victim or relive this incident for the rest of your life. But as a token of love, you can certainly take a moment to remember your lost child on the annual date that corresponds with its passing over. Light a candle, place some flowers and send love and blessings to the soul.
5. Know and Learn
Know that everything that happens to us stems from a choice. Souls form contracts long before they incarnate. And this soul’s contract with you was limited to a short period. This incident was part of your learning on Earth. View this loss from a higher perspective and accept that it was necessary for your soul’s evolution. Sometimes, there may be other reasons why a child in the womb decides not to incarnate. If you unconsciously did not want the pregnancy or the child, some souls may decide to leave. This is not the case always. But it is so for a few people. If you suspect that you carry such blocks, request Reiki to bring it to your awareness so you can heal them. You don’t want them lingering in your energy field and coming in the way of your happiness.
As you work on healing yourself, if you find that you are unable to cope independently, work one on one with a professional healer or therapist. It helps to have someone support you during the most intense phase of grieving. Once you are through with this phase, you will feel a lot better and be able to cope on your own.
Love and Reiki Blessings to you!
Haripriya Suraj is a Reiki Master, Angel Healer, and Spiritual Teacher. She was drawn to Reiki right from her childhood and Reiki went on to become part of her life’s purpose. Reiki is her constant companion from which she derives peace and contentment. She is also deeply connected with the angels, with Angel Healing being an integral part of her Reiki practice. After reaping the fruits of Reiki practice in her life, she was inspired to spread the joy of Reiki and the light of the Angels. Haripriya offers courses in Reiki and Angel Healing as well as distance healing services. She resides in Bangalore, India. Reach Haripriya on her blog at lightworkersonearth.com, on email at email@example.com and on Facebook at Angel Light.