Article by Haripriya Suraj, Reiki Master
Do you express your emotions freely?
We all have emotions but we don’t always feel comfortable expressing them. Unless we acknowledge and express our emotions, it would be difficult to heal them.
Before diving into the significance of emotional health, let us first understand emotional expression in the context of age and gender.
Little boys and girls are masters of emotional expression. They are honest and express their emotions without any inhibitions. Ever seen a toddler yelling in frustration? ☺
Young children may not know how to express their feelings in socially appropriate ways. But express they do!
Women and Girls
A good percentage of girls and women express their emotions easily. They talk to friends, cry their hearts out and get the first layer of pain out of their systems. This in itself has a healing effect.
Men and Boys
A vast percentage of men and boys have trouble expressing their emotions. If you are a man, were you told as a child that boys are strong and that they don’t cry? Thousands of little boys are brainwashed with this notion. Unfortunately, they grow up believing that in order to be strong and masculine; they must appear unshakable at all times. This causes an emotional shutdown and creates blocks later in life.
During my interactions with clients and students, I have observed that women open up easily and express their emotions. I am able to extract a lot of information without asking much. In contrast, men often find it hard to share their true feelings. Some even sound apologetic as they express, like as though I would judge them for getting emotional. It takes a lot of gentle coaxing and reassurance that they will not be judged for them to open up.
What is Emotional Health?
Being emotionally healthy does not imply that one needs to be a perpetual cry baby. We just have to learn to acknowledge that we are human and that we have emotions. We need to be comfortable with the fact that it is OK for us to feel and express our emotions, irrespective of whether we are men, women or children.
Reiki can help us in so many ways, if only we can remember to take its help.
Here are a few tips that can help you identify, feel and heal your emotions with Reiki:
If you have children at home or work with children, encourage them to learn about their feelings and emotions. Whenever a child is in emotional turmoil, resist the temptation to criticise the child for feeling in a certain way. Acknowledge the child’s emotion instead and offer to give him or her some Reiki.
You could say something like this:
“I see that you are angry (sad, disappointed etc). Can I give you some Reiki?”
Acknowledging the child’s feeling does not mean that you must give in to unreasonable demands or spoil the child. You just have to let your child know that he or she has a right to her feelings, even if it seems silly or unreasonable to you. Feelings are feelings and they can’t always be justified or reasonable. Often, just this acknowledgement from a parent is enough to heal a child’s pain.
You can also encourage children to express their feelings verbally. Teach them them to say “I am angry”, “I am sad”, “I am disappointed” etc whenever they experience these emotions and to seek comfort in Reiki.
Women and Girls
If you are a woman, you most likely face no difficulty feeling your emotions, though you may not always know how to express them. A lot of women go into silence when they feel low and expect others to understand how they feel. If you tend to do this, know that you have healthier options that can help your heal faster. While it would be great if people could comprehend our emotional states without our having to tell them, it doesn’t always work that way. The people close to you may not always know that you are upset, sad or angry unless you tell them so. Drop the expectation that everyone must understand how you feel. Instead, just be honest and tell them. If it is a situation where you cannot tell the other person how you feel, at least acknowledge the feeling to yourself.
Express your emotions verbally and heal yourself with Reiki (using the mental-emotional symbol) as soon as they arise. Don’t allow the energy to build up and suffer in silence.
Men and Boys
If you’ve suppressed emotions all your life, you deserve a huge round of applause for having been strong all these years! However, you can now choose to feel and express your emotions and still be masculine. Feeling emotions does not equate to being feminine or childlike. It only means that you are also human. The best way for you to start expressing your emotions is to write them down when an opportunity arises.
When you feel sad, bring out a pad of paper and write “I am sad.” (same for all other emotions).
Then feel the emotion fully and heal yourself with Reiki using the mental-emotional symbol.
The act of writing will help you get comfortable with your own emotions first. Once you are comfortable with emotions, you will find it easier to express to others too.
Love and Blessings to You!
Haripriya Suraj is a Reiki Master, Angel Healer, and Spiritual Teacher. She was drawn to Reiki right from her childhood and Reiki went on to become part of her life’s purpose. Reiki is her constant companion from which she derives peace and contentment. She is also deeply connected with the angels, with Angel Healing being an integral part of her Reiki practice. After reaping the fruits of Reiki practice in her life, she was inspired to spread the joy of Reiki and the light of the Angels. Haripriya offers courses in Reiki and Angel Healing as well as distance healing services. She resides in Bangalore, India. Reach Haripriya at firstname.lastname@example.org and Angel Light on Facebook.