Article by Haripriya Suraj, Reiki Master
As a child, I was taught by well meaning elders that I should not allow myself to feel very happy about anything good that happened in life. I believe they were rather superstitious, as they were convinced that being very happy about something would invite subsequent unhappiness. They also believed that laughing a lot and having fun would invite misery shortly after.
I was a happy child but I did absorb the energy of those beliefs. As I grew up, I began to fear happiness. Whenever something good happened in my life, a part of me was always on guard. It did not want me to get hurt by celebrating those moments of happiness. I felt that by limiting my experience of happiness, I would protect myself from inviting unhappiness. I experienced this belief as a nagging voice in the background whenever I had a chance to feel happy or celebrate.
I was not consciously aware of this pattern for many years. Reiki brought this pattern to my awareness and helped me to heal it. Once I became aware of this pattern, I began to observe the same pattern in many others around me. Many people try to limit the happiness they can feel for varied reasons. In my case, it was the result of absorbing superstitious beliefs. In other cases, I observed that people limit their happiness because they feel they don’t deserve it or they believe that happiness is the birthright of just a lucky few. Some also fear that if they are very happy, it would make other people envious of them and thereby bring them bad luck.
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Such beliefs not only prevent us from feeling happy in the moment, but also prevent us from receiving other gifts and blessings as we move ahead in life.
I met a loving couple some time back. Both of them had been in several painful relationships before finding one another and that made their relationship very special indeed. However, the woman harboured a strong fear of losing her partner. She feared that if she celebrated the happiness this relationship brought her, she would lose it.
Her partner had more trust in life. In one of our meetings, he asked the woman, “Why do you fear losing me? The Universe brought us together after we each faced a lot of pain and learnt lessons the hard way. Why would the same Universe wish to separate us again? Do you not trust it to bless you with what you desire?”
I was rather impressed with his outlook and his response to his partner’s overwhelming fear. As I observed them, I understood that the problem existed only in the woman’s energy field and not in reality. On further introspection, I understood that she had absorbed self limiting beliefs from her environment. These beliefs lay buried deep in her energy field and prevented her from being happy and enjoying her gifts. They made her worry unnecessarily about things that might never happen.
I suggested she work with the following affirmations, by writing them down in a journal and giving Reiki to them.
- “I deserve to feel happy.”
- “It is safe for me to enjoy my gifts and blessings”
- “It is safe for me to feel happy in life.”
I also suggested she work simultaneously with the technique for healing fear with Reiki and Archangel Michael (which I wrote about some time back).
I am happy to say that she is a lot better today and making steady progress.
Dear Friends, this is how many of us absorb self limiting beliefs that prevent us from living life happily. How about you? Do you allow yourself to fully experience the good moments in your life? Do you feel you deserve those happy moments and all your other gifts? Or do you limit the happiness you can actually feel?
If you feel that you carry blocks that prevent you from living life to the fullest and experiencing all the happiness there is, work with the same affirmations listed above and give Reiki to them. Do so till you feel a difference in your outlook. It does bring about a change.
You deserve to live life. You deserve to enjoy all the gifts you have been blessed with. You deserve to experience all the happiness that can be yours. Sending lots of Reiki your way to help heal any self limiting beliefs and blocks so that you can live life joyfully and be blessed with more and more of all that your heart desires!
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Haripriya Suraj is a Reiki Master, Angel Healer and Starseed Lightworker. Reiki is her constant companion from which she derives peace and contentment. She is deeply connected with the Stars and Angels and they form an integral part of her Reiki practice. Her core mission is to help bridge the worlds of Spirit and Science and to help Lightworkers connect with their unique soul missions. Haripriya offers Personalised Starseed Transmissions, apart from workshops in Reiki and Angel Healing. She resides in Bangalore, India. Reach Haripriya at lightworkersonearth.com, whenspiritmeetsscience.com on email at angelhealingbangalore@gmail.com and on Facebook at Angel Light.
I have been struggling with blocks for a while now, but really could not identify what they were. I have been doing everything right, affirmations, positive thinking and raising my vibration etc.. but I think this article has hit the nail on the head for me. I will try these healing techniques.. I have a feeling it will work 🙂
Thank you for sharing Sonja 🙂
Dear Blessed Friends,
I would like some suggestions and guidance to heal or clear my validation/approval seeking behavior from parents or family and friends. I wait for their approval for each of the things I desire, and have lost many valuable years due to this affection/approval/validation seeking behaviour, whether its taking a trip or meeting a friend or just start something new or maybe just buy something new. There is always a negative feeling attached with my desires.
There is a lot procrastination and a lack of action due to this. How do I start taking actions for my desires. Taking that step is becoming a big task and as if doing something makes me feel guilty or selfish and when the time has passed, I feel unfulfilled and disappointed with myself.
Please someone suggest.
Loads of Love and Gratitude
Dear Harpriya I was undergoing the same thing after I lost my beloved husband two years back.thanks a lot for this guidence