trau·ma – /ˈtrômə/
Google – Definition of Trauma
A deeply distressing or disturbing experience. – “A personal trauma like the death of a child.”
When I was a younger, I was taught NEVER to show any emotions, to never let anyone see you cry; it was thought to be a sign of weakness. I held my emotions inside most of my adult life. It wasn’t until I had my own children, I wanted to change the narrative. I welcomed my first grandchild Jax Francis-Pearson April 16th 2011, the most HEART OPENING process ever in my life, only to be closed and shattered after the loss of my grandson Jax to S.I.D.S. August 27, 2011. I was completely devastated watching my son’s heart break losing his child, and me losing my first grandchild. The pain was unbearable and hard to describe to others.
In October, 2011 I would welcome my second grandson Jace just 2 months after the loss of Jax. I was completely paralyzed, my heart destroyed and not knowing how or if I could ever open my heart again. I was in the delivery room and I tried my best to be present in the moment, but only to feel complete heartache, loss, fear, not sure how I was going to be a grandmother to him.
Crippled by the fear of having tragedy striking again to my grandson Jace only caused more trauma to my heart along with sleepless nights, anxiety, depression, all behind closed doors. I tried my best to be joyful and optimistic, but deep inside all I could think about was how could I possibly open myself up to that kind of love again? It would take me years to be able to have my grandson spend the night with me.
In January 2012, my best friend who was a Reiki Master asked if she and two other Reiki Masters could do Reiki on my heart. I reluctantly agreed and all three of them placed their hands upon my heart, meanwhile I would be fighting them and the Reiki the whole time, afraid that I would forget my grandson if I was to heal. I didn’t clearly understood how Reiki works until I began my own Reiki journey in 2017.
I realised that healing myself was the KEY to being able to go on and truly help others, and I began to work on my healing journey one chakra at a time. I offer FREE REIKI to anyone who has lost a child to honor the memory of my Grandson Jax. Being able to relate to others through this grieving process has made me a better Reiki Master.
I wake up each morning grateful for another day and see it as an opportunity to help heal myself and others. I recite my Reiki precepts, draw a CKR on my palm, and say the names of all my family members. I then cover myself with the Golden Healing light of Reiki.
I have taken hundreds of hours of courses and studied with several Reiki Masters. For me I believe the only way I have learned to heal my heart is through daily Reiki practice and now teaching others about the benefits of Reiki. I would not be where I am today truly living and enjoying all my grandchildren if I had not trusted in Reiki. I tell my students: a little bit of Reiki everyday is better than no Reiki.
Reiki has allowed me to express my emotions and let my vulnerability shine through, because when we are truly honest with ourselves and the process of healing, it also allows others to see they are not alone in their feelings or apprehensions, and so they feel safe to go forward in their healing journey. I love connecting with the Universe and asking my guides to help me to be the conduit that provides healing for my clients, the highest greatest good. In return, I receive the benefits of Reiki healing within myself.
If you are a Reiki Practitioner/Reiki Master, you can do the following Sacred Symbols depending on the level of study. I like to start healing past trauma by sending Reiki back to the time and place when you experienced trauma. I start by drawing (3) Cho Ku Rei (CKR) + adding (3) Sei He Ki (SHK) + (3) Hon Sha Ze Sho Nen (HSZSN) + (3) CKR – The Full Reiki Sandwich.
Reiki Masters can start by drawing (3) CKR + (3) DKM + (3) CKR to send Reiki back to those life events that they would like to heal. This is not a one and done healing; this must be done several times until you feel the release of the trauma.
It has brought love and healing back into my heart. There are some days when fear and doubt creep in, but then I remember my Reiki precepts, place my hands upon my heart and take 3 loving breaths into my heart to release those thoughts. If there was one thing, I would tell anyone who wants to heal their past, present and future that Reiki is key!
Article by Maria Emeterio
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Maria Emeterio is an Advanced Reiki Master teacher, who specializes in Chakra Healing, and she ALWAYS offers FREE Reiki to any parents who have suffered the loss of a child, as a way to give back to her community and honor her GRANDSON JAX who passed from S.I.D.S.
You can contact Maria at https://smart.bio/be_blissfully_balanced.
I’ve known Maria for many years and she has got to be one of the kindest people I know. All the obstacles she has gone through and overcome has been so inspiring! She is one strong woman! This is part of what makes her such an amazing healer. Her reiki is powerful!! Lol I love to see her work getting out there because she is so full of knowledge <3
As I sit here with heightened emotions of love and loss after reading this beautifully written article, I realize an even deeper level of appreciation I have for Reiki. As a Reiki master and a conduit of the universal energy it is a great honor to be connected. As we share this energy with others it heals us too. Thank you Maria for sharing this heart felt story. You are not only allowing Reiki to work through you to help yourself and others, you are also an inspiration for others. Sharing your story will not only touch the lives of many, I believe it will also guide others to healing and inviting Reiki into their lives. As well, as inspiring more people to share their stories in faith that their stories need to be heard to inspire and guide others to healing.
This is such a beautifully written article and such a powerful way of honoring the life of your Grandson. Thank you for sharing your story and how reiki helped you heal deep, crippling grief. You experienced an unfathomable loss that can understandably break people, but you haven’t chosen to honor Jax’s legacy through gifting others in grief. I have so much gratitude for you sharing the power of reiki and healing others through your grief.