When we have been sending Reiki to someone and they die, it can be disheartening.
My friend had cancer and I didn’t want her to die. I thought that as a Reiki Master Practitioner, I could facilitate her healing and prevent her death by sending her Reiki. Each time, I could sense her absorbing the Reiki, so I expected a full recovery.
After she died, I went through some serious soul searching. I realized that I was angry at Reiki for not curing her body. There were several things I was not taking into consideration.
First, we don’t control Reiki. We can’t make physical healing happen just because we want it to happen. Reiki is a mystery to be respected. We are channels when we allow Reiki to flow through us but it is not at our bidding.
I have to admit that my ego was also involved. As the Reiki Master, I wanted to be the Big Healer who fixed her. Then everyone could look at me with admiration. Pitiful but true.
Healing happens in more than one realm. As accustomed as we are to experiencing the physical aspects of Reiki healing, we need to remember the emotional, psychological and spiritual healing that can happen. The union of the spiritual and physical result in an expression of each other.
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It has been said that there are lessons we need to learn that can only be learned in the physical world. Regardless of one’s religious persuasion, Reiki touches the spiritual realm. Physical healing is wonderful for right now, but it can only last so long. Spiritual healing endures. The mystery of Reiki can connect us with the mystery of the spiritual realm and help guide us into out next level of existence.
With my friend, it could be that she received Reiki’s emotional and psychological healing that enabled her to resolve unfinished business. She may have had emotional pain that required healing so she could transition pass fear through death. How many people linger on their deathbed because they are too afraid to face death? My friend died with courage, calmness and openness to life. It was almost a celebration. The way she died is part of the memory we all have of her.
I needed to let my friend live and die as she needed without me putting my agenda on her life. It could be that she died exactly the way that was right for her.
Article by Janice Campbell, Reiki Master Practitioner
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Janice Campbell has been practicing Reiki for 12 years. As a potter, she creates “ Prayer Bowls” which can be used to deepen one’s meditative experience. Part of the process includes Janice directing the flow of Reiki into the bowls as she creates them. She lives in North Carolina with her husband, Ty, and son, Quincy. She also has a cranky, black cat named Cletis.
Very moving and true
Yes it’s true. I did reiki to an aunt and the doctors said that the family need to be prepared becomes of her illness she can’t die peacefully without pain. So when i went to see her i did treatment Reiki to her and in 2 days she died. Doctors couldn’t believed it that she died peacefully and so quick. So Reiki heals us in other ways too.
I am reminded of the teachings my first Reiki Master instilled in me: None of us is a Healer. Only Source (God, Creator, Supreme Being) is The Healer. As Reiki practitioners, we are only conduits for healing. We ask Source to work through us so that we may be channels of Light for healing.
Sorry you loss your Friend, but thank goodness you were there.
Thank you.
It was nice reading this information. It´s exactly what´s happening in my life just now. I´m preparing my mother for her transition. Hope she can do it fearless and in peace.
Thank you.
I understand, it follows my life, exactly. May the universe bless you .
Sorry for you .. My mother has recently died, Felt that she was happy to have us there .. It felt good with reikihealing, able to hold her hand and massaging , o just be there
Very insightful. I admire the depth of thought that went into this article. It is important for all healers to understand that they are only channels of reiki and they can not determine outcomes.
I have a terminal lung illness. I don’t know if I will be healed, or die.
It’s hard but I keep praying, and doing self- treatment, having others pray and do Reiki. The disease I have, I been keeping on with it for round11years. That’s a long time and I have been thru some very serious bouts with it. Any advice?
Yes Dionna Pioli repeatedly Arrazzaq ..while inspiring ..meaning (praying) Lord the Giver .. ….we came to life through a gift from the Lord .. giving us a breath from his Spirit .. we go away by giving back the last breath ..may you have a long a beautiful life …. Arrazzaq .. feel it when you say it …
…… request healing from Him .. ……..
Hope His Spirit will protect you now .. and hereasfter ..
Will send you reiki for your case .. you are brave .. 11 years you are a survivor .. Dionna Pioli .. relax .. believe .. you will be fine. .. draw the symbols wirh your right hand .. do the clense with your left hand
Thank you so much for your response . I really appreciate your
Advice.
Donna,
Illness is just an illusion and nothing else. It is the soul within you which is expressing the emotions it is carrying through this illness. Consult any SRT practitioner and get the emotional energies cleared. There are chances that once these energies are cleared, You may recover completely.
You may contact Malabika Shaw in the US. Pls visit her website http://www.visionwholistic.net
If in India, you may contact me. My email ID is [email protected]
Bonnie,
I had that same experience a while ago. It is hard when your faith is tested like that, but it helped me to realize, like you have, that we don’t control the outcome.
Sending Reiki,
Donna
Thank you. I have gone to her sight and it looks very
Interesting and helpful to me.
Donna
Keep doing what you are doing, it is working for you. Continue to pray and meditate and lastly keep faith.
Thank you Elizabeth.
Hi , Donna
I just found your comment .
I hope you are well.
I really believe our sickness come from the past , about a situation or a person ….. You still keep inside the pain is not yet forgot and forgivent .
True meditation you can go back in time ,found it and realise yourself.
I now Reiki is fantastic , healp to heal your body but I believe you have to work with your mind and feelings.
Release yourself.
All the best .
Celebrate each day of life. Note your blessings. Do not empower the negativity. When you do you cease to live. We are all going to die. But if we know our time is limited then use the time to do what you need to do… Tell some one you love them….visit family .. Forgive and etc. This can be a blessing disguised . How many take time for granted and then say if I had only known. Also doctors are not fortune tellers. I have been told at age 3,22,35,55 I could die at any time. Well I am 66 and I am still here?
Thank you! You have helped me to acknowledge my own disappointment with Reiki & my friends death from cancer. I felt less than and I too was angry. Hello ego! Namaste
The Karuna Reiki symbol of Happy Trails is always to good to use at times of soul transition x
Very interesting article. Sometimes we all need this reminder. Thanks Judy
I am so sorry for your loss but am sure that your friend benefited greatly at the time of her passing with your help. Donna I am sending love and Reiki to you keep strong xx
Margaret can you let me know which Karuna symbol is Happy Trails I have done Karuna but not sure which one that is and it would be of great benefit to some people I am working with xx
Love and Light
Linda xx
Thank you, Linda.
gracias por compartir tu experiencia, me levanta el animo porque me me ha sucedido…
Ánimo, confía en que todo irá como deba ir. Confía en el reiki. Confía en el amor.
Hi Linda, I did this as part of my Karuna course. Try this link:
community.fortunecity.ws/westwood/guerlain/304/happytrails.html
Love, Margaret
Hi, I was blessed to have Reiki in my life. My mom was dying of cancer I held her in my arms ,an let the Reiki flow . I knew an held trust in that it helped her transition to spirit .And helped ease her pain. And mine. Blessings Myrna
Great Article, i am just starting to learn about Reiki . I lost my Mother in Feb. i was there when she passed. I would like to become a practioner and later a master. Can anyone offer advice ? Thanks.
[email protected] is a very good site. I have learned so much by belonging to this group. There is teaching. Try it and see.
Thanks Donna , i will look in on the site. Again Thanks for you response
I have come to see that sometimes death *is* the heal. We want the highest good for people, especially those we care so deeply for, and it can be hard to accept that death can be the highest good for someone. In this culture, we have demonized death as if it is some terrible thing that will eventually swoop down upon us all. However, death is as natural and right as birth. Coach calls us in and we come down into life, we play, and then we go home at the end of the game. Reiki and Tonglen are wonderful tools to assist those in passing. I think it is both a gift and a privilege to assist people, and animals, in sitting comfortably with themselves in their final times so that they may pass well and peacefully into whatever comes next.
very very well said!
Yes!!!!!!!!!!
This is very true…I had similar experience when I started a healing session on completion of my master’s… In just two days of my healing session, the lady getting treated passed away telling her daughter that a white beard man is calling her to go along with him..I wondered what it was…. I meditated for long days in search of the answer..(how to convince the daughter? what answer to give?) After long search I got the answer as part of dream….I understood that the lady’s soul was helped by reiki to get elevated and reach the next stage….with this I also graduated to understand how reiki works…
How convenient! So if the person survives you can give credit to Reiki. If the person dies, you can still say that Reiki healed them!
Ray,
First of all you need faith and trust that there is a God who loves us
And only wants what’s best for us. Whether we live or die is not
Important. We all will die eventually. What is important is that we believe in the living God.
Donna
Reiki is healing of soul and your Karmas. It works for a person’s highest good. That good may not be in accordance to our understanding of good but it is always for the highest good of soul.
For example If a person was supposed to suffer due to a disease fr 5 years n den eventually die. With Reiki healing that person suffered only for a year n died. We only see d death. But forget to acknowledge d fact that soul got heal n is released of suffering.
Dr Brian Weiss’s book Many Lives, Many Masters is still as relevant today as it was when it was written and an essential read to anyone seeking answers on their spiritual path. Sent in love to all who seek. x
My friend Rachael, left this earth on 7/12/13. She had cancer for 3 years, was given 6-8 months to live, never had surgery or chemo. She was an intuitive healer, surrounded by healers of different modalities, including Reiki Masters, and started Lightworkers Galore, a metaphysical group. I also practice Reiki, so when she moved on, I kept asking myself, how can this be, she had tons of Reiki along with many other types of healing sessions. I was not angry at Reiki or God, but kept saying why, she was only in her mid-life and surrounded by all these healers who all worked with her, even some Shamans. I could not grasp this! Rachael was always positive, smiling saying I will beat this. In June 2013, a tumor had developed in her stomach and grew very large. She went to a holistic clinic, came home and seemed to get worse. She came to her last few Lightworker meetings via video. The last meeting she said, “I am ready to move on and have accepted my journey.” I knew then it was only a matter of time. I was still questioning why this would happen to such a loving, caring, giving person. She always had a smile, even to the end. I am tearing up as I write this. After weeks of asking why, I came to the conclusion, that Lightworkers Galore is her legacy. (It is currently looking for a larger venue). And all the lives she touched. I only knew her for 9 months, but she deeply touched my life. So all the Reiki she received and other healings helped her to transition. Now Reiki is helping with those left behind. I send Reiki to her life partner to help with his loss. Reiki is a universal energy that will not always work to our (ego) benefit, but to the benefit of the universe and the universal consciousness.
Beautiful story, thanks for sharing it. Sending supportive prayers and Reiki.
Thank you!
Thank you for sharing.
You are certainly true, Janice. That happens to me with two important people in my life. In the end, we realize we are just helping. No matter how, Reiki is working. Blessings. Namaste.
I think I was led to Reiki because my best friend was dying. When she was in the final months of her life, and in hospital, I visited her everyday and gave her Reiki. I also sent her healing every evening before I went to bed. She told me, and the nurses in the ward confirmed this, that my friend put out her hand at night and felt the healing energy. She was then able to have a peaceful nights sleep and didn’t have to have as many painkillers. Reiki went where it was needed as it always does, it didn’t stop her from dying but gave her a peaceful end.
Janice, thank you for your honesty. I’ve posted your article on my FB page (Connect My Mind Body And Spirit) to enlighten other healers as well. What an honor for you to have served your friend in this way and helped her find peace during her transition! Continued blessings to you and yours, Maria.
I have a question, my friends mom was dying of cancer last year, I went over to give her Reiki and I couldn’t do it, I was upset, by how much pain she was in, she was really restless, I couldn’t concentrate or get comfortable to do what I wanted to do, I felt terrible, I had to tell my friend I wasn’t able to help her, I was so distracted that it didn’t even occur to me to send it to her, why did this happen? I love Reiki it has changed my life, but I felt leaving like a hypocrite, can anyone give me an answer?
Kelly,
I have been a Reiki channel for 22+ years. In my experience working with those who are getting ready to cross over the experience of intense grief I experienced (working with my mother being the first experience of many) is part of Spirit and that person’s soul telling me death is going to happen. I learned to allow it to flow and experience the weeping and intense feelings that we’ll up first, then eventually pass.
One thing I learned is there is a difference between healing and cure. If a person has made the choice to let go Reiki can assist and release them, in a more peaceful way.
This recently happened to me with my brother. He loved the reiki and said he felt he was healed. When he died, I realized he had been healed, but not cured. The reiki made him feel at peace. It also taught me about not being attached to the outcome when giving reiki. You just give, without ego, without expectations. Reiki also healed our relationship – we were kids again without the judging or criticism – and although he had to move on, reiki performed miracles before he left.
Insightful article but do we forget that the Reiki has an intelligence of its own? YOUR statement: “I thought that as a Reiki Master Practitioner, I could facilitate her healing and prevent her death by sending her Reiki” This makes me sad, it tells me that EGO is involved. When we practice Reiki we must set all EGO aside and remember that ALL healing comes from above. WE are NOT the healers, we are only CHANNELS for the healing to take place. This is very humbling. As a Reiki Master and theist, I cannot let my ego assume that I can prevent someone’s death. I cannot interfere with God’s plan for that person. I am a Reiki Master working in a hospital, seeing the worst things. When I am offering Reiki, I am also asking that this person’s pain be taken away, that their life is more comfortable and always healing for the highest good of that person. I cannot ask for more, I TRUST that our Reiki will serve what is needed at that moment and continue working after I leave.
I really appreciate the authenticity or your post. To me it speaks volumes about your integrity and your capacity to love, and share love. Loss is painful however much we attempt to understand it and I believe that we can only accept it by using it as just one more lesson in a lifetime of lessons. My heart goes out to you. I think your friend had a wonderful friend in you.
I wrote this just after my 52-yr-old husband made his way into the light…..
Filled with anticipation, I found myself hoping for the best, and realizing, for the very first time, that what may be best for us, may not be best for him.
You left without me, too soon I thought; I wanted you to stay
I know the pain that you endured, each and every day
You stayed longer than you should have, to alleviate my fear
I didn’t see it coming; didn’t know the end was near
Even as the two of us looked forward to plans we’d made
Looking back, I see them now, preparations being laid
Knowing you’re at peace, my Love, will fill me with desire
To carry out our hopes and dreams, and always feel inspired
If I could bring you back right now, I wouldn’t even try
For in my heart, you’ll always live, forever in the Light
I am so glad you posted this. I gave reiki to one of my dogs a year ago, and he passed. A year later, I gave reiki to my husband’s ferret and months later his dog. they both passed. I felt like I was more of an angel of death and was hesitant about using my reiki. A good friend of mine had taken a turn for the worse with her battle for cancer a couple of weeks ago. As I was sitting with her, hoping she could get better, holding her hand sending her loving vibrations, I wasn’t sure how to feel. I think I was being selfish. she passed couple of weeks ago. and at her funeral, it was apparent that she knew she was going. and she was prepared. yes, my ego got in the way as well when it came to my animals. but with her, i understood. it does bruise the ego when someone passes, but that’s a part of life.
blessings
This iss a topic wich is near to my heart… Many thanks!
Where are your contact details though?
As healers we cannot be responsible for the outcome. We are channels and we have to understand the person receiving takes it and does what they want with it, consciously or unconsciously. We need to honor this and not become attached to the outcome. Otherwise we are healing for ourselves and not from our compassion. This really is rule # 1 for us. We are channels healing for the the highest good.
thanks for sharing your experience..is a lesson for me…i am new to Reiki…
xx
I am a 2nd degree practioner and just experienced a simular situation with my brother. I believe although rieke would not heal him it certainly lessened the pain and helped him to experience a more peaceful passing. He was able to make his mends with all involved and passed in his sleep. For the last month sending rieke and actually being with him helped the transcendence aspect of passing over. Just wanted to share and to say no matter what always know rieke does work on all aspects of life.
Im a 2 nd degree practitioner and my sister is a reiki master and we both used reiki on our terminally Ill mum and brother . With our mum it enabled her to die peacefully with us around her in a very calm n tranquil environment and with my brother it enabled him to get his head round his diagnosis and prepare for his death
Hi all, I once visited a terminally ill cancer patient in the hospital. As I sat there I felt him drawing energy from me. He didn’t know I am reiki channel. He kept looking at me at short interwals. I just sat there and let him draw energy. It was so intense that I could not move even. He passed away after 15 days. I knew he must have been comforted as he died peacefully.
Nice…..moving and it proves a point again dt birth and death z controld by almighty…..Reiki is a blessing of god…..it wl nt make us god…..power of god will take its own course as he wants.
ONLY THOSE ARE CURED WHO HE WANTS TO.
And we poor think “I DID THE MAGIC “
ummm,no…”we poor” as you so politely(note sarcasm) put it DO NOT think we “did magic”….Reiki is a type of channeled energy that can help alleviate pain/stress,etc….and in the case of people who are dying,help them be more at peace and accept the transition.
I have been a Reiki Master for about 20 years. A number of years ago, I was giving Reiki to my younger brothers wife as she was fighting thru her last days of cancer. Jimi noticed me using my healing crystal to judge where to direct my best energy. My crystal would swing head to foot when a chakra was open and arm to arm when closed. Where her cancer was massed the crystal was very confused and would shake. I gave him my crystal and he used it on her daily as she slipped into a coma she never came out of. He and the nurses were present when she finally passed but even after the monitor showed no sign of life, the crystal still showed energy from her feet up through her body and the energy slowly receded as her life force slowly left her body. The crystal slowed to a stop first at her feet, and followed this pattern eventually stopping over the top of her head almost 1/2 hour after all the monitors showed she had passed showing to all that our energy does indeed continue and then goes home to the universe eventually as the body expires. This brought great peace to my brother, I hope it does to others as well and helps us to realize just what transpires within us…we are energy encapsulated within a husk of a body. Namaste
Thank you for sharing this. It’s lovely to hear the wonderful happenings with Reiki. Namaste!
One of our good friends had cancer back in March/April- I found out much too late, as he had stage 4 and travelling quickly. The first time I Reikied him, it was for comfort, as he was back in the hospital after being released a day earlier. Not knowing what I was doing (and drugged up), he had the energy to say “that feels good”. It was rewarding to hear that. The last two times, I Reikied him, I was reaching out to his guides and angels for a smooth and safe transition. He passed 12 hours after seeing him for the last time. Subsequently, he came to me a few times during Reiki shares and psychic circles and noted that he is one of my guardian angels and that he is always with me. I know when he’s around when I feel a pulling on my left cheek.
Thanks for sharing your experience. How special you are indeed…
boa tarde , desculpa de eu nao escrever ingles , eu nao sei corretamenta .
eu tenho o primeiro canal de REIKI que tirei em portugal ha 10 anos , gostaria de tirar o segundo mas como estou no canada ainda nao encontrei ninguem que me pode-se dar o segundo curso se podese-me ajudar algum mestre de REIKI que fala o portugues aqui no canada toronto obrigada
That was very moving and I totally get where you are coming from. It’s heartbreaking for us that we can’t fix everything and it’s brave to admit your ego figured in this – I think we all do that but we don’t always like admitting it!
Blessings to your friend who has passed.
As a Reiki Master I have healing energy to a friend that also passed. I when to see him in hospice care at home, put my hand on his crown chakra and felt that his time was near but he was hanging on to this physical plane. I told his wife to give him permission to go, to tell him that she loved him and she and her sons accepted with love his passing. 45 minutes after he passed quietly and peacefully.
Very early in my Reiki journey, I volunteered at a non-profit organization that provided support services for cancer patients, including Reiki sessions. After a few weeks I had to withdraw. I just couldn’t handle it. Looking back, I realized it was because I wanted Reiki to “cure” these people. I was too attached to the outcome *I* wanted. I couldn’t let go and just let Reiki do what was best for the patient, as it has done time and time again in my own life. Though I now “get it”, I still have to be very vigilant about letting go.
i have been a hospice aide for 21 years. In the beginning, people would say I only want you. The other aides are nice but you are different. I really could not understand. My argument was always “we all do the same thing” I know they would say but you do it differently. 8 years ago my hospice for only a brief period offered reiki 1 attunements and as I am always open to new things I attended. I was left dismayed because I found I had already been doing reiki without knowing for years. I am now a certified master. Which is an accomplishment but realize also, I have always been. The THING that developed was not my reiki abilities but my trust in listening to what Spirit was telling me. Each situation that was presented to me had a unique healing. I became very tunes in to recognize what was needed. I never concentrated on making someone “well” physically, that was not why I was put in there. If these people were to be healed it was up to a higher power than mine. I was however fully aware that I was always put in for some reason. Often there was already an established aide seeing this patient and they would be pulled for no apparent reason and I would be put in. My beginning thoughts and words were always “ok, show me what you want me to do” sometimes it was to be the voice of a patient who could no longer speak. It would just come as a thought. To discuss with the family. But dad was never religious he turned his back on the church years ago, I would hear. Then to plant the seed but the end stage restlessness we are seeing could be him crying for reconciliation before dying. Then the chaplain would be offered for at least an opportunity. A lot of times its family members estrangement or past difficulties that need to be resolved for
Peace of mind. I am just a listener. The journey is theirs. People say how can you do this job? I say, we are all mortal. Healing comes in a vast array of paths. To be healed does not make you always physically well. To die with dignity, understanding and peace of mind, is healing. To die encircled in love is healing. So before I go into each home after 21 years is still… Show me what you want me to do.
In such cases we should surrender the person to Reiki itself. We should continue doing Reiki for terminally ill persons, without attaching ourself with Results. I am sure Reiki will relieve them from their pain and suffering and will do the best for the person. That is my way of doing Reiki for such people and by God’s grace Reiki has given best results always.
We perform Reiki for the highest good of the person we ae Reiking, when I was asked to send distant Reiki to a sick elderly gentleman, who died 2 days later, I did actually feel 2 emotions, the first was “oh no, his daughter is going to think Reiki is rubbish” the second was “Now he can leave hi body and grow spiritually” I contacted my tutor (I was level3) and we discussed the death issue in depth.
I think that it must be remembered that we are merely a channel for reiki, which will do what is best for the recipient
I gave Reiki to my terminally ill stepdad,he didn’t want to leave my mom. Two hours later after a week of fighting to stay,he passed away peacefully.my master told me,we can’t cure people who are terminally ill but we can make their onward journey a peaceful one. I truly believe its a privilege to be able to do this.
I had a similar experience, my soul mate became seriously ill very quickly. I gave reiki during visits and sent it when I was not there and each time I felt the reiki being received and saw the soothing effect it was having. I thought it was healing the liver failure. When I received the call to say my friend had had a stroke, slipped into a coma and had a fatal heart attack and was gone I was devastated. No one had expected her to die so suddenly, even the nurses and medical staff were shocked.
My partner said to me a few days after that I shouldn’t feel that I had failed her because the reiki hadn’t worked – I said I had never felt that because the reiki had worked. It was her path to leave, my path to face the grief and deal with the hole she had left in my heart and life. Reiki had worked! It helped ease her pain, comfort her soul and allow her to pass peacefully and not linger on for weeks and months in pain. May she rest in peace.
Thank you for sharing this. When my mother was in hospice I would give her Reiki. I couldn’t accept she was dying. I noticed the more reiki I did the faster she was going. She kept requesting more but when I realized she was dying I stopped because I thought I was causing her to die faster. I didn’t realize I was helping her with her transition. I stopped doing Reiki on people as a result. I am now ready to start again. I needed to hear this. Thank you.
When my stepfather was dying of lung cancer I thought giving him Reiki might at least diminish his pain. I had the experience of the energy “bouncing” off of him, blowing back in my face like the heat from when you open the oven door. After meditation about it, I understood that he had to go through his death experience in his own way, without help. With a friend who died of cancer, I was able to help reduce her physical and emotional pain with Reiki and find some peace about dying.
As a long term Reiki Master, practitioner and nurse I have always respected the “person’s” journey. As a nurse when someone is dying the most we can do is be ther, hold their hands and advise them to let go gently when they are ready.
As a Reiki Master, it is the same.
Never in my life have “I” ever felt that I could cure anybody.
During my nursing and Reiki practice I have always felt so humbled that I have been allowed the priveldge of working or being allowed to work with both healthy and non healthy people.
Confrontation came a few years ago when my dad had a massive brain stem infarction, STROKE, and his chances of recovery where less than 1%, and even then any sort of functional recovery was even less.
My sister and I performed hands on and distance Reiki almost the whole days and evenings.
It was interesting that my extended family had to be educated so that they understood, we where not “healing” his stroke.
We where providing healing for him,
When we where doing the Reiki, his body was calm, his mind was still, he needed less pain relief.
In doing the Reiki, we also gave him “permission” to leave.
Permission to pass over.
I must admit that in all my years of nursing and Reiki practice it was the gentlest passing that I have ever witnessed.
One of my brothers was there, I had my eyes closed in deep meditation whilst doing the Reiki, and my brothers gasp brought me out of the trance. The room was full of divine light, it was {2am}, and my brother later told me that the room was packed with all the angelic beings who had come for him.
I felt blessed that we had been there, and that I had been able to assist him with such a gentle passing.
I must admit, that the brother and I where the only ones who where bale to be calm and composed through the funeral and mourning period, because we had seen, we had witnessed the miracle of a gentle passing.
Remember that the greater the love, the greater the grief, but also the greater feelings of relief that the person has passed into the hands of the great Universe and beyond.
That is so awesome. I believe it is the best written explanation I have seen.
Thank you for sharing
As a hospice nurse, I came to understand the various levels of healing that include the process of death. You were courageous in your work with your friend, too, as you went through your own healing as a Reiki Master and human being in the process.
How can I create a Reiki ball to help myself?
Years ago I had a 2.5cent growth in my right lung (which has been operated on 30 years before) Dr said they could not go in again. But,didnt really give any alterntives. My daughter and I were in shock. I found two ladies in Naperville who did Quantum Touch on me and my growth disappeared. I went back to the Dr and said “Now what do you think doctor?” He said, “Sometimes it happens that way” Many doctors and nurses also came to them for healings. I never hear anyone mention Quantum Touch, does anyone ever practice it? Is it weaker than Reiki? Can’t Reiki heal anyone? I need treatments again for something else and afraid who to trust and can anyone heal?
We are only a source to bring Reiki to others. It is always something that we should understand that though we give. We are not the healer, it comes from source. It is always what is the greater plan for the individual receiving.Though some struggle with this we must understand it is not for our needs but theirs.
Though I understand the grief of loss, we may not ever know why our loved ones are taken.
I myself do self Reiki to help though the loss and search for understanding.
I had a similar experience. The man I loved was diagnosed with throat cancer. All thru his chemo treatments I asked for guidance as to how I could best help him. On a walk one night a very clear message came to me in the former of a soft warm breeze..it said you can help him heal..I sighed and said yes..I can do this…just a few weeks later he passed after an acute infection attacked his heart. I was baffled. It then that I really understood that healing does not always include the physical experience.
Thank you for the article and thank you everyone, I have loved reading the comments as well.
I’ve had experiences from both sides.
I do distant healing using many energy methods. Sometimes, I am working with those who are ill, sometimes they are dying and sometimes they are already dead and they need help crossing over.
Our spirit is always alive and we need healing at all stages. So it is just as important to give someone comfort and healing as they transition to their new spiritual home.
One Friday, a coworker sat by my desk as he waited for paperwork to be completed. He had been in and out of the hospital in the past month and told me he was just diagnosed with a “fibrosis” type of disease and at best had 3 years to live. He was distressed because he felt his handicapped wife needed him to care for her. He commented how hard the zero temperatures were for him to breathe. At that time, No one at my work knew I did any healing work, so I simply said that I would pray for him.
That night, I sent energy and healing to him. Part of my routine is to visualize taking people to heaven and praying with Jesus for their healing. I always ask for whatever is in their best interest.
Monday when I returned to work, I learned that he lay down for a nap that next day (Saturday) and passed away in his sleep. I was shocked at first and then realized that perhaps the healing gave him permission to “let go”. He was so very tired. I later learned that his wife was not nearly so handicapped as he believed. He just felt he needed to care for her.
I’ve also worked with people who were expected to die and one was even in hospice and had stopped eating but recovered after the healing. I only thought I could send comfort. They are still doing well.
And there was the famous case of a celebrity with a brain tumor with only 2 months to live. I sent healing for several nights and at one point observed a brilliant flash of white light as I focused where I thought the tumor was. A few weeks later, I heard she was in remission and a month later that she was cured. Of course, “I” didn’t heal her. I know there were many people sending healing and praying for her. I think though that I was allowed to witness the healing.
I would like to encourage everyone that the Reiki and the love we send helps everyone no matter what stage of life or death they are at.
P.S. About 3 weeks after my coworker passed away, I was at my desk working and I looked up and saw a large branch on the plant in my office wave back and forth vigorously. I think my coworker came by to say thank you!
The woman who had been a life long friend and a Reiki master passed away from cancer several years ago. I went to see her a week before she died. All I could do was cry. I am a level 2 and she is the person who brought me into the light. Since her death, I have struggled and only used Reiki on my life partner after his surgery and my dogs.
Recently I found Reiki Rays and it has been wonderful to reconnect to a community of healing people. I did not know if I would take the Master training. Now I know I can if I chose to. Thank you all.
Working as a Hospice massage therapist and Reiki practitioner you always remember life is a journey. Is a blessing to be part of that journey. My father received Hospice and my reiki energy. I know he used that energy where he needed it.
Working for a hospice I treat many patients, the majority of which are terminal and leave this world. I always Reiki with the intent to bring them what they need. I know Reiki will not cure them and as a therapist that isn’t my role. I am striving to also provide Reiki at the end of a patients life to help the transition, this is known in many areas as Soul Midwifery or Soul Doula.and at the moment it’s not a recognised practice and hasn’t been accepted by the hospice, in the UK. I will always be there if a patient wants me. And I hope when its my time a Soul Midwide will be there for me.
Even I gave reiki to my sick mother in law for few days but she expired! And on the last day she asked to be given reiki herself. But she died instantly and without any pain…so I believed in the overall goodness of reiki! She didn’t had to suffer much.
My brother suffered a short serious illness and heart surgery and passed before our eyes. While he was suffering I extended Reiki to him while he was on a ventilator for many days. After he passed, he delivered a message to me through a medium telling me not to be disappointed that my Reiki gifts to him did not work. He told me that they did work and his suffereing eased and he was more at peace because of my gifts.
Don’t despair. Conitnue to give!
Ceil
Thank you for sharing…That was so timely for me to hear. Blessings to you
I am not a practitioner, but have experienced some success in healing when in an emotional state, which seems to prompt great heat/energy coming from my hands. I have read that in a situation where Reiki does not heal, it helps one to die with much better ease. This seems to be in agreement with what Janice has written…… M.
A few years ago when I was studying Reiki 2, a friend was diagnosed with cancer and I offered to give him Reiki every night. He had refused all medical treatment. I was very naive and had to follow my intuition. My intention was simple: May the Reiki session be to his highest good.
The strangers whose paths I crossed offered advice. ie, “let Reiki do what it needs to do – don’t try to heal/cure him; do not ground him or do symbols on his feet – you will hold him to earth, and that may not be what he needs.” Lots of guidance came my way, including various areas on the feet and hands I could focus my Reiki on.
Before I began Reiki with him, he hadn’t slept in 3 months. I cleared his room nightly. I spent 1.5 hours on him, often reciting symbols and drawing them with my eyes on static areas where his cancer resided, but he couldn’t roll over, so I would have him sit on the table wrapped in a blanket to do Reiki on his back. I learned about areas on his back that strengthened his will to live and focused on them – to his highest good. I felt his cancer.
He would fall asleep every night while I did Reiki on him. And he began sleeping through the night again. For him, it was miraculous.
A few weeks before he passed – and my Reiki master told me Reiki would protect me – I did not protect myself and could feel energy flowing through my hands, through my body and feet, then into earth, but then I also sucked some black entities into me. So I had to stop his last few weeks.
I would like to warn people to protect themselves. Yes, we removed them from my body with much effort – 3 long sessions – but this isn’t a light, frivolous treatment. And there are exercises and visions you need to practice when dealing with the dying.
After clearing my body, I visited him the night before he died. He emanated peace and serenity. He comforted me.
I will be forever grateful to Peter and my Reiki guides for what I’ve learned. Baptism by fire.
Reiki for the Sick and Dying: As Reiki practitioners we must always ground ourselves and surround ourselves in light before we open to channel divine energy. When dealing with the ill, severely ill and/or dying please include in your healing practice: carrying a piece of selenite and black tourmaline. Each are protective and black tourmaline draws away all negativity including entities. Illness is a sign of depleted subtle bodies (aura). In the case of the dying the subtle bodies are very weak…do not confuse this with the need to heal the aura in order to heal the illness. It is a process. When anyone’s subtle bodies are weak they are open to darker energies/entities attaching themselves. While Reiki or any channeled healing is being given to the dying, you are actually strengthening their spiritual selves, their aura and helping them if it is in their intention to heal past life transgressions. They find peace, spiritual strength/reconnection to Source and less pain.
As Reiki healers we also must remember to work with our Arch Angels. It is also part of the process!
For sick and dying call in this order: Arch Angel Raziel, Arch Angel Gabriel, Arch Angel Metatron, Arch Angel Sandalphon. You only need to ask once to surround the person…NAME…with their loving light and to take … NAME… to their rest. NOTE: Arch Angel Azrael is always present at death so do not need to call in. Keep black tourmaline with the sick/dying . Be sure to carry selenite. Do not work on the feet. Do not ground the patient in anyway (no grounding stones or grounding essential oils)? As it may be extremely painful for the person to move, do not move them into positions you have been taught to give in Reiki. Instead in your mind’s eye envision the area you would like divine energy channeled and trust in your intent that it is placed there. However Reiki goes to where it is needed most, so do not feed negativity when you believe you are not receiving results You want.
Steps to remember: After you are grounded and surrounded yourself in GOD’s loving protective light…CLEAR the room, bed area with Intent and symbols. If you do not know symbols (Intent: Say “ I clear all negative entities, negative energies or thought forms and I fill with pure love pure light pure energy, pure healing”. Say a prayer and call in Arch Angel Michael to protect all.)
Carry Selenite and tourmaline and place black tourmaline above the patient’s shoulders in crown area. I have also laid selenite in a disposable bag under the bed. (Note: You can pre- spray selenite with clear acrylic spray to stop fine filaments from dispersing and it does not affect its properties. Satin Spar is never a substitute for selenite!)
Call in Arch Angels. After calling in Arch Angels and prayer for the patient, finish with CK Ret as an acknowledgement of the Arch Angels actions (This symbol is actually sacred writing and acknowledges interchanges with Arch Angels and Ascended Masters as a closure. Minds eye draw once loop 3x say 1x)
Accept that Reiki or any energy healing with Intent goes where it is needed.
Remember we are always surrounded with loving light filled Angels who can help us if we open ourselves to hearing their loving, never dark or sad messages. When we open ourselves to Reiki guides also remember they work in loving light and never give dark messages. If you are aware of darker energies attaching themselves to you, call in Arch Angel Michael and surround yourself with his four warrior Angels and as them to remove all that does not belong to you. Reground and surround in light.
Reiki Master, Lightworker. All information has been provided by Angel and Healing Guides channeled. It is for all to use and share, but not profit from. This is a portion of my personal channeled notes channeled to Jan E. Living with Light Joules Healing ( Sk., Cnd) 04/11/2018 Love and Light…jan Living with Light Joules Healing.
Lovely thanku for sharing
When I ask for healing for someone I say “for the greatest and highest good for all” this way I don’t accrue any Karma. Maybe this is meant to happen and all you can do is try to make their life more comfortable.
Working with cancer patients has taught me the value of letting go of the Reiki and letting it do its work. Working with the dying is a privilege . . .a gift.
Hi….Is it possible to direct me to the site for the “Prayer Bowls” articles. Would like read it pls. thx
Thank you for the insight as I have given up on REIKI because I did loose a person that I was threating, she died as soon as I was away for the winter
very true…. Dear
Thank you
Thank you , It made sense and give me peace.
If u use dai ka myio symbol on sick ppl n dey want to leave d earth dey are transported to other world without pain n suffering.
I agree. Reiki will heal WHATEVER
needs healing and it does not necessarily CURE. Our job is to put our egos aside and realize that what we want may not be what they need and it is not for us to decide but for their soul/ higher self to determine. Death does not mean failure. Can anyone suggest a good program in the area of Chattanooga or Knoxville TN that Reiki masters can volunteer for to give Reiki? Any suggestions would be appreciated. I am looking for more ways to share this wonderful gift. Blessings to all and thank you.
I gave Reiki to my brother in his last stages of cancer. He kept telling me that he felt he was healed! When he got worse and went into the hospital he kept asking me to send reiki because it made him feel peaceful. When he died I realized that Reiki had not cured his cancer but it had healed him.
Hi Janice,
Thank you for the wonderful article. Through this I realised, I am holding grudges too for times healing didn’t go according to what I or the client wished. Even though I understood how reiki works (on different realms), it is often difficult to explain to the client, who is hoping for physical cure. I am still not very good at that.
Regards,
Tanvi
We are not the healers, we just channel the energy. The person and the energy decide what will occur.
Some modalities believe that cancer is a socially acceptable way to leave this life. So all the Reiki energy you may send will not change a persons decision to leave.
We all send Reiki and love energy which enriches the person, the world, and life. Do not become attached to the outcome, just do your best.
Jesus is the one who heals… Reiki is a great method, but the power of God who created the world, is the power that heals the sick, raised the dead and casts out demons. I pray revelation in your soul searching and comfort and peace in your trials. Know that you are loved beyond the greatest measure by an everlasting God, and by accepting Jesus, can be anointed with the power to do all things you are searching for.
As a healer I had a similar traumatic experience. In my case it was my best friends mother. Although in her 80’s the lady went dancing most weeks until diagnosed with cancer. She was such a lovely caring person that I really wanted to help ( read cure for help ). Unfortunately it was not to be. Her death left me questioning everything that until then I had believed. I stop healing for nearly a year. I buried the terrible experience deep inside me. It honestly took a long time to reconcile what had happened. When I could deal with her death I realised she had received help and that simply her time had come
I came back to healing and became a Reiki Master
Thank you for writing this article. I am a Reiki Master/Teacher, and just two weeks ago one of my dearest friends whom I had done some Reiki work on crossed over to Spirit due to cancer. I’m very much in a stage of grief where I’m questioning if I helped him at all. When he did die, he was courageous and went in peace surrounded by family. Thank you again for writing this article. Helen.
reiki masters usui and x died at 61 due to stroke
how it is
In my work as a facilitator of a group of people with chronic or catastrophic illness for over 10 years, I learned that healing comes in many forms. Just because someone dies does not mean they weren’t healed. Maybe death came in order to produce healing or the healing came and death was the next step. We cannot judge, we don’t always know the answer. We do our work and trust. We are facilitators not curers. There are powers beyond ours that make decisions that we are not capable of. What I do know is that death is a transition, not the end. There is no need to fear it. I have helped people make that transition without fear and that is a very rewarding experience.
Thank you for sharing your story. I have been a Reiki practitioner for 6 years. When my dad was sick with cancer, he was every so grateful for the Reiki healing that helped him release many things before passing. When he passed, he was peaceful and able to go easily. Sorry for your loss.
Lovely to read this. The Echoes so so true. Just spent the last two weeks with my Nanna (grandmother) who had a set of seizures and was on end of life pathway. As a Reiki Master Practitioner, I’ve literally just been where you described. The realisation came to me mid way through last week, when i focussed my intention for curing to comforting. Letting the universe determine what was for the best highest intention of all. The results where amazing, my flow of energy seemed to rise, my hands where on for literally hours at a time. I was fortunate to be with her at the end and in meditation, had the honour of escorting her up to the gateway, filled with love and energy, something i have never ever experienced before. Before she told me this was far enough, and i returned to the treatment as she drew her final breaths. Namaste
We are not God, we have no power over life or death, l have used it with animals beforethey pass to bring comfort only
I had two experiences in giving Reiki (distance healing) to patients in terminal stage. My energy was draining too much. Later on I came to know that they died during that time. I learnt that when your energy is draining ,don’t proceed further in sending Reiki.In Reiki healing,receiver and channel,both will be in higher level of energy. Anything contrary,don’t proceed further.
Dr.G.Narayanan
Reiki channel
Very Important Message Thanks
Thank you for your words they have helped me get clearer about Reiki healing which will be very useful when I am explaining things to clients.
Thank you for this. I lost a dear friend last May to cancer, after sending and administering Reiki to her. I was devestated and also believed it didnt work. I did finally put my ego aside long enough to acknowledge she experienced life and death in the way it was intended, for her. Your words are timely for me.
I learned a long time ago that death is also a healing.
If you want to know why something either good or bad is happening , try past life regration. For that you have to find someone
Like you need reki master for reiki.
When my dad had a stroke a number of yrs ago, the nurse in me knew he was only days away from dying. But the Reiki Master in me knew I could help ease his pain and fear he may have. Also the Reiki allowed him to see a few truths that he may not have acknowlegded otherwise.
Every time I was there he received Reiki also timed and distance Reiki when I was away.
He had a very peaceful transition.
My brother said that all the elders where there to greet him.
I am not blessed to see them like he is.
But I could feel there presence whilst doing the Reiki.
I am a Reiki Master and love the energy flowing to my patients, but how do you close a session? I just thank Reiki for the honor to help the person. Is there another way to close a session?
How do you close a Reiki session?
I am also a Reiki Master/Teacher. My interpretation about death has been that Reiki is always given for the highest good of the recipient. Reiki can only heal them if it is for their highest good. If it is time for them to depart, Reiki will help them have a peaceful, loving transition.
I believe this too, but somehow lost my way for a while. I hope I am on the right path again now.
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I sent reiki to two friends, and with both of them, at a certain moment, I received bright white light back – and later I heard that was just after they had passed.
Yesterday I sent reiki to a friend’s dogs that was to be mated, and all of a sudden, I felt the presence of our deceased friend, who used to be the owner of this girl dog – it was amazing, and comforting, too.
Very touching…
I think that as Reiki healers, we all go through such experiences. Understanding that Reiki works are much higher realm – the spiritual level- and distancing oneself from the results works best.
Thank you so much for this article. As I type, I am sitting at my mother’s house as she recently passed. I completed an entire doctoral program partially to provide another form of therapy to help heal her ailments. She passed after I received my degree, but before I could really understand and properly execute using the power of Reiki. I have been cleaning the house, but she has been dropping signs that she is okay (literally, the top of one of the products she used dropped in the bathroom sink in front of me). I will go on learning about and using Reiki in healing in her honor. She never would allow any experience to go to waste. I guess in her view, she help me prepare for the times where I may lose a patient. Nonetheless, her love is still here and strong. Thank you again for writing this!
When I couldn’t fix my mother’s cancer, I walked away from reiki. That was almost 4 years ago. In that time I did send it distance to friends/family, but not an in-person session… until last month. I came to realize that I, ego, cannot fix anything – it’s not up to me. I’m a conduit for the healing energy, and it will go where needed. Beautifully articulated thoughts and feelings that resonated deeply with me. Thank you.
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Such a powerful reminder that we are not the ones doing the healing, that often bigger pictures are at play here and that everyone has their own journey and that Reiki goes where it needs to. Thank you for sharing.
I too tried desperately to ‘save’ a little black kitten as I wanted to prove how good Reiki was to the Rescue’s owner. But as I saw it wasn’t having the effect I wanted, I continued so that Reiki could help in whatever way was right. It was very sad, but I had come to terms with it when he transitioned. But I had not learned my lesson well enough.
Recently, two years after the kitten, an uncle asked for healing and I went to him. He was in and out of hospital and several times close to transition. Towards the end I feared visiting him in hospital as I thought it might delay his passing, which he very much needed. I sincerely regret that I had allowed my ego to step in, as at least I could have given distance healing. It has shaken my resolution to give daily and I regret that too. Now I must forgive myself, learn my lessons and move forward. I needed to be humbled in order to progress, I know that now. I love Reiki but I am but a tool to facilitate healing.
This is such a great subject. Getting out of Ego. Many times Miracles happen without a doubt. But it has NOTHING to do with us. ” For the highest and best good for all involved…”……
I can so relate to this experience. Was doing energy work with an old school friend who was dying. All throughout almost every session, I had to keep recentering & keep reminding myself that ” I ” was not in control of any the outcomes of any of the various aspects of her healing. I was simply a vessel offering universal solace & possibly enabling her to have an easier transition. The last session was the most rewarding … she simply fell asleep. The energy in the room had the most peaceful feeling I have EVER experienced. She passed the next day.
This is so close to my heart as I have been trying to reconcile to the fact aI couldn’t help my husband. He had cancer and I think I did reconcile to the fact that I couldn’t cure him, amazing, wonderful f I had but I don’t think I spent long even thinking maybe the Reiki would ‘work’ this way. What I still struggle with though is that I couldn’t ease his pain, or take away his fear of the pain and of dying. It was an awful time for us all, the whole family was in shock that it was happening, could this be why the energy I so tried to use wasn’t working? Since he died I have lost both his parents and my dad, still feeling unable to help them. I’m continuing to learn and progress through Reiki levels – I’m doing Master level now – but still find my faith in my ability to channel the energy as well as others I know can struggles. If I couldn’t cure (which I accept is way beyond my level) why couldn’t I help ease the pain?
So heartening to read your comments. I find my ego gets in the way of healing. It’s not pleasant to admit but it’s nice to know other healers also experience the same.
Thank you for this article… I needed to read this… Sending you much Love and Light!
I am sorry about your loss. I went through this with my cousin and more recently one of my best friends. I am not a master but have helped others find comfort from their pain. I also am certified in Bars through Access Consciousness and there is a clearing called Exit Stage Left…. the night my friend passed and I knew she was close, I was telling my daughter about this clearing and read through it thinking of my friend. She passed peacefully and without struggle. It helped to ease my sorrow knowing it was her time. As healers we want to help those in pain or suffering and sometimes, as you wrote, it’s other areas that the healing goes to. Blessings to all.
Sorry for your loss. I had a grandaughter pass this February. Three months prior she was in the hospital and I preformed distance reiki for healing. I had never channeled anyone, but that is what ended up happeing instead of the reiki healing. I feel she needed to reassure her grandpa/family she was going to be ok regardless of the outcome. We don’t have control of others, but we can reassure ourselves and others of our loved ones comfort and peace.
REIKI can help a person cross. I liked your comments.
Sorry for your Loss…
I can relate to this in so many ways. During my initial days as a Reiki practitioner and I performed Distant Reiki for someone who probably left at those very moments. And as a Channel, I could feel that my Reiki is going nowhere. It left me so low on energies and spirits, I could hardly carry on with my day. I sure can say that I sensed the hollowness and emptiness but wasn’t so sure what had happened until the next morning when we received the call of her passing away. Though as a new practitioner I wasn’t much on the ego part, I had my hopes on healing someone. I wish I’d have read this back then. but I guess better late than never !!!
Back then I read it somewhere to” Make Peace with it” and that somewhat helped.
Thanks for sharing your experience !!!
This is why I always ask for the Most Benevolent Outcome when I send Reiki. If they are not meant to heal and be healthy, I want them to be at peace for the new journey ahead. It doesn’t make it any less painful if they pass, but it lets me know that I helped in some small way to make things easier for them.
This article came at a perfect time, as the first person I treated with terminal cancer just died. I treated her and had one of my most emotional sessions ever. She then passed two days later right after her whole family was able to say goodbye in person! Thank you for the article!