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Cutting Cords with Reiki

Article by Ashwita Goel, Reiki Master

When the light comes in, the first thing that we see is the mess we have created. Once we start to see the damage we have let people make in our lives so far, we naturally want to cut off. But when we really start looking at the situation carefully, we understand it’s not just about removing them from our lives – it is about removing them from our minds.

The cord cutting procedure is very simple:

  • Create a sacred space. You could light a few lamps or candles – lamps with cow’s ghee or sesame oil are said to be the most sattvik. Flowers would be good, incense if you like it.
  • Start by observing your breath and entering a meditative space.
  • Now imagine yourself in a circle, with the person sitting in front of you, also inside the circle. Slowly allow yourself become aware of the cords attaching the two of you.
  • Pick one cord at a time, and ask yourself why you allowed this attachment to form. What was the fear that caused it, and what was the benefit you gained.
  • It may be a good idea to ask the other person if they have anything to add. If you can seek permission from the other person before cutting every cord and find out why, if they resist, and resolve that issue, then the cord cutting will bring you much more benefit.
  • Once the reason for the presence of the cord is resolved, it may disappear by itself. If not, allow your intuition to guide you to the best way of cutting this cord. Once the cord is cut, burn the remains.
  • Thank the person for teaching you valuable lessons, and ask them to leave the circle.
  • Complete the process by doing a full self healing. Cord cutting can sometimes leave a little soreness in the aura, and this will heal any wounds.

This process is best done at dusk time.

if you can't unplug, just cut the cord

Image by smswigart

A few things to keep in mind:

Sometimes the revelation, that it was our own fears strengthening these bonds, can be quite disturbing. If this is the case, I suggest that you let go of the idea of cutting cords for a few days, and allow Reiki to heal the resistance to these emotions, first.

If there are too many cords, you can repeat this process for a few days until all cords are cut. Sometimes one finds cords reappearing – this means it is a deep issue and needs more healing.

It is possible to cut cords without finding out the reasons and resolving them as well. However, the external world is nothing but a reflection of our inner selves, and blindly cutting cords might cause the same pattern to repeat again with another person. Ultimately, you chose to form those cords at a subconscious level. If you remove the reason, the problem heals more deeply.

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Ashwita Goel

Ashwita Goel

Having learned Meditation as a child, Ashwita incorporated Reiki into her life during her early teens. After a decade of witnessing the magic Reiki, she felt compelled to take up Reiki professionally, and ended her corporate career in 2007, taking up Reiki full-time. She eventually incorporated EFT, hypnotherapy and past life therapy into her work. Apart from her healing work, she teaches Reiki and meditation, and her book ‘Healing Through Reiki’ is available on Amazon. You can connect with her through Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Reiki.Bangalore,
her website http://www.reiki-bangalore.com/ or visit her blog http://www.ashwita.com/zen/

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  • Aimie October 31, 2014, 3:01 pm

    The way I learned was different. It would consist of calling in Saint Micheal to remove (not cut) the cords. After that, to call in Saint Rapheal to re-attach loved ones & heal you.

    • Ashwita November 2, 2014, 3:20 am

      Fair enough Aimie, it depends on cord to cord – some are torn away, some are ripped apart, some are gently removed. Either you let the angels work through you, or you call upon the angels and ask them to do the necessary – same thing 🙂

  • Tammy Marengo October 31, 2014, 3:59 pm

    What if these cords were all ready attached when I met this person, and remained so through-out a life-time, despite 35 years of absence in between? What if this person ended the relationship recently after a year-and-half reunion that was of soul mate quality, but she was under duress when choosing to do so? I can find no fears related to any original attachment, just a very deep, timeless bond of love and respect and deep empathy for each other.

    • Ashwita November 2, 2014, 3:17 am

      I shall reply to both your messages over here 🙂

      In one way, there is no need to do any cord cutting at all. Cord cutting is done primarily when people don’t want the pain another offers, anymore. But pain and joy always go hand in hand – cut out the pain, and you cut out the joy as well. Look at anything you enjoy – it brings it’s own share of pain, but mostly you are in acceptance of that ‘kind’ of pain and don’t think of it as a punishment but as a part of the process. The moment you reject pain and believe it shouldn’t be happening to you, you cut out the joy.

      Soulmate – is another soul that reflects more of you than anyone else. This is a person that is capable of bringing you great joy, as well as great pain, and if this person has a role in your life, he/she will do both. If you open yourself up to the pain you receive, it will be easier to open up to the joys as well.

      The reason why many cords grow back is because WE form those cords because we project ourselves onto people. So the only way to really end the cycle is to take back your projection – which means become aware of what you are projecting on to this person (basically everything that you find awesome and repulsive about them), realise that these are nothing but your own reflections and have nothing to do with the other, and then slowly bring them back into yourself, embracing them totally. Done over 21 days, this process will completely close the chapter – either with the person itself, or the situation with that person.

      So no, we cannot permanently ‘cut cords’ with a soulmate because we project too much on to them. But we CAN take back projections, and that person won’t be a soulmate anymore. Because a soulmate is merely a persona that most closely resembles the parts of you that you have torn away from yourself. They are ‘not’ the torn away part, as most of us tend to believe, due to the striking resemblance.

      • takshesh suthar January 10, 2017, 6:25 am

        What is important of cutting cord

  • Prad Mistry October 31, 2014, 10:03 pm

    Firstly thank you Ashwita for re enforcing the power and effectiveness of cutting cords.

    I have been cutting cords a very long time, Oracle card readings for others often throw this card out and I also find myself drawn to people who are unaware that they have so many cords attached….Not only in this incarnation and dimension……but from previous incarnations and dimensions.
    Aimie I would say do not worry about the method but be open and willing to try other methods of cutting cords, after all it is the intention in the first place that will start the ball rolling.
    This article is the closest to the method that ive been practicing for years. Also to bare in mind is that some cords will /may grow back to form attachments and hence may be relevant to you TAMMY. Unless you research your past life/s and incarnation/s and if like me you are an old soul, cords most likely will grow back so like most things in this lifetime, it is constant work with cord cutting .Just like giving up smoking or a vice like alcohol, you have to do your utmost to avoid it!

    sorry for the long post and thank you all in advance for reading this. Namaste love & light always. Prad

    • Tammy L Marengo November 1, 2014, 3:21 pm

      Thank you for your reply. Why do you think cords continually grow back, even over lifetimes? What do you think about the soul mate theory. It is my belief we were “sent” down with one mate – in essence as opposing/similar aspects of the same soul in order for the soul to reflect upon itself. I know that soul mates don’t always necessarily connect through romantic partnerships, but in this case, I do feel I have actually been lucky enough to unite with my soul mate, except that we both have such traumatic lives behind us at this age, 50. I have studied these theories most of my life, have my reiki ll degree, do shamanic work and psychotherapy, and have had my share of longterm relationships. Can we actually cut the cord that connects us to our soul mate?

      • Zena January 9, 2015, 8:49 pm

        Hi Tammy, In regards to soul mates, I’ve been reading Destiny Of Souls, by Michael Newton, a hypnotherapist who does past life regressions to our lives between lives. He says that we have soul families. Within these families, we can have recurring relationships with different souls throughout life times, or with souls from neighboring families. Even so, there may be one soul that we’re attached to, that we’ve been with from the beginning and we’re just going to be with them no matter what, when all is said and done. There are cases however where there are soul groups of only three people. Wonder how they’re gonna work that out. It’s ok, God’s in charge. It’ll happen. Thanks again, Ashwita, for very valuable information.

    • Ashwita November 2, 2014, 3:20 am

      Beautifully put Prad, thank you for your wonderful reply

  • Becky November 5, 2014, 2:13 pm

    Great tips, but what if the cords are family members where much of my energy is being spent worry, fretting about a future situation that may or may not happen. I have a parent in assisted living where she will not be able to afford much longer. This causes much anxiety for me but my family is in denial. Do I remove cords to all of them to stop the worry?

    • Ashwita November 5, 2014, 3:37 pm

      Cord cutting does not sever any relationships Becky, it merely cuts off the energy draining attachments you have formed with them through your fears. If anything, cutting/ removing cords will help you love them more effectively. So yes, go ahead and remove the cords.

      More than just that, what you could do is start with the understanding that worry is natural for you to feel at this point. We’re so programmed against ‘negative’ feelings that we resist them intensely. And what you resist, persists. So start by easing yourself into your worry, and eventually to the anger you feel towards your family for their denial. You can do this by becoming aware of the feelings this situation brings up, and then breathing into it. Don’t resist the feeling, merely watch it, allowing it to intensify. It will fade away before you know it and allow you to come into balance. If you need any more guidance, you could contact me personally 🙂

  • Lisa December 9, 2014, 3:16 am

    What a fantastic article! I have someone I need to remove from my life, hoping this helps. It hurts my heart to let go but I know it’s necessary…. Thank you!

    • Ashwita December 9, 2014, 3:33 am

      Thank you Lisa!

  • lavanya January 8, 2015, 5:15 am

    Very nice thank u very much

  • Cathy January 9, 2015, 6:25 pm

    Thank you for the lovely article, Ashwita…so very informative! Blessings to you!

  • anuradha January 28, 2015, 9:09 am

    Ashwita its a good article on cord cutting. My query is do i literally hold the cords while cord cutting or i need to visualize them.When we say CORDS does it mean the concerns or matters that has affected the relationship ? Also can i call for arch angel Michael too while performing this ?

  • shailja March 10, 2015, 1:04 pm

    If we tend to attract same type of people in life due to past karma or present unknown actions. ..can we cut chords there too?

  • Tammy L Marengo May 23, 2015, 3:24 am

    it has been a while since I have been here, and with regret I have to say my soul mate ended our relationship in february. The adjustment for her would have been too great, surrounded by a family still too bigoted to accept me as a woman since 1982, and too traumatized as well. She had the keen ability to block feelings from herself, and unable to accept herself and integrate me into that family, she shut down and when she reuturned, she decided to end it. She had fallen out of love, she said, no attraction to me at all…. She was back in complete denial, something she did in highschool when her mother found our letters. She looked at me, sad to be hurting me, but she was not in herself. She believed her own lies to survive, and said goodbye. Only weeks later she contradicted herself. But we stopped communicating, even when I knew her feelings for me would resurface with time. Now she can’t be friends, because she “can’t mix friendship with her old feelings.” After two years of accepting herself as gay, she leaves, and weeks later tells me she has found a new gentleman… Back in the closet she has gone. Back into her past, she has tucked me away.
    I am talking about my soul mate. There was so much she couldn’t give, but what she gave was plenty. The quality of our love was sacred, nothing Id ever felt before or since. But I know I must move on now, and I am working on cutting all the cords. But no sooner do the scars heal than they have come back again. I have settled for just getting used to them in the hopes that the pain of losing her will fade enough into the background, like they did 35 years ago, in order for me to be happy again. I am seeing another woman, and even she says she will never compare to my ex. It saddens me to think it. But I need to change every nuance of how I view it, or this new person and I won’t have a chance. How on earth do I let my soul mate go? We have been together before. We recognized each other right away in 8th grade and fell in love. In our senior year her parents destroyed us. But we remained connected despite passing relationships and marriages, living so close by we never knew it, for 35 years… It was almost as if we had lived each others’ lives, wanting what the other wanted…
    Anyway, she is gone now. In hindsight, even though I fought to keep it going the last two years, the depth of our love, old and new, one and the same, scared the heck out of us both. But she had the added burden of coming out to a very nasty, bigoted family, her children included, and coming from two abusive marriages. But we were each others’ first loves… But even at 51, we were not ready to be so loved by the other. The fear of the loss of it alone was terrifying, never mind all the rest we would/she would have had to endure to be with her true love…. Maybe in another life…. I don’t know. But aomeone help me cut these cords, encourage me… Someone….Please

    • Ashwita May 23, 2015, 4:57 am

      Hello Tammy, and thank you for opening up your heart. One very important thing to understand is that soulmates aren’t such a big thing. You have several of them, some may even be arch enemies. They are just close soul-buddies and you might have varied relationships with them. The fact of the matter is, when you have the opportunity to get married and settle down, the magic fades. The intensity reduced. Then if you meet the same person in the next life, there will be attachment, but not that mad, mad intensity. That exists in the cases of unrequited love. She may not even be a soulmate. She might just be a person that you haven’t been able to spend your life with (maybe even for good reason) in the last few lives, and the craving increases with every ‘iteration’. I can help you get over this, but we’ll need some back-and-forth. Please email me at arth.blr@gmail.com and I’ll be happy to help.

  • Tanvi Lodhia October 24, 2015, 7:04 am

    plz I wnt d author or n e bdy to rply my query regarding Diz.
    I need to cut the cords constantly wid d ones 4m whom I learnt Reiki. cuz Dey used to suck d energy which iz active naturally in my existence.. nd also cuz Dey took affirmations to hve relationship wid em forever Bt due to sucha sucking attitude s well s disallowing attitude bout me nt hve superiority den themselves disturbed a lotz in my evry field.. nd whenever I sit on meditation to cut d cord.. I found em beside me… cuz Dey used to suck d positive spirit/energy bein beside me so dat I Dnt come to knw. Wat can b done regarding Diz???
    I wud b gratitude to hve rply nd help

    • Ashwita October 24, 2015, 11:50 am

      Hello Taanvi, I know it seems like a desperate situation where you want to cut cords, but that’s not going to work. You need to reverse the approach. Instead, imagine them in front of you and flood them with energy (http://reikirays.com/16561/energy-flooding-with-reiki/), wishing them happiness and peace. I know it sounds like a crazy thing to do, but just trust me on this one – do it for a week and get back to me.

  • sarah khan January 16, 2016, 10:10 am

    How many candels, should we take, & how many days we should do the process.

    • Ashwita January 16, 2016, 1:27 pm

      One candle is enough, Sarah, and you need to do it everyday until there are no cords left when you sit to do this process. If you don’t have any clue, do it for 21 days.

  • takshesh suthar January 10, 2017, 6:27 am

    What is important of cutting cord

  • Erin May 13, 2019, 10:27 pm

    I haven’t done it like this before, but I very much like the method. It is more self-reflective than other methods I have used. I think I will try it. Thank you!


  • Anjana August 28, 2019, 5:47 am

    Great article. The content is very helpful to get relief from the problems. Thank you.

  • Lorilei September 1, 2019, 6:56 pm

    I am not able to download the cutting cords with Reiki chart. Every time I click on it I get the book and not the chart. If possible, would you please send it to my email.


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