Connection is the single most essential human need, even more essential than food and water. The story of our life begins with our connection to the mother. An infant cannot survive for long if you deprive him of the mother’s touch, which the former needs in order to feel the connection. The quintessential truth is that this need for connection does not end even into our adulthood. When this need is not met, we feel isolated, giving way to feelings of loneliness and the associated ramifications.
Origin of loneliness
Many of us experience the feeling of dejection and hurts from our primary caretakers, guardians, well-wishers, or friends during our childhood. As children, we are extremely vulnerable and cannot process everything as right or wrong. We start burying the parts of ourselves that are not acceptable by society into the dark recesses of our mind, e.g. a child might carry the feeling of shame around his/her looks because the parents keep criticizing his appearance. This is how we internalize the feelings of shame, guilt, ‘not being good enough’, etc. In order to avoid getting more hurt, we start isolating ourselves emotionally and this leads to loneliness even when we are surrounded by people. The inner state of loneliness then brings even more loneliness from outside, thus perpetuating the inner state of pain.
Besides, in today’s hectic lives, when several parents are juggling with their careers, children feel left out and as a coping strategy, they become independent to the extent where they believe that they don’t need connection. In order to escape the pangs of loneliness, several people indulge in addictions, which could be as simple as a phone/internet addiction or as severe as drug addiction. Many people indulge in work, entertainment, recreation to avoid facing the feeling of loneliness, only to find themselves even more lonely when the external distraction is gone. One could be married, have children and still feel like the most lonely person on the face of the planet.
Accept that the need for connection is perfectly human and there is nothing wrong with wanting that. You may be highly independent in everything you do, but you still need some connections which could be either casual or intimate.
Heal your relationship with yourself. Go back in the past when you developed that pattern and uncover why you became lonely. Face it, accept it that it happened, release it and move on. Heal your Heart chakra and Solar Plexus chakra using Reiki. This will help you drop the baggage of the past hurts.
As you improve your relationship with yourself, you will automatically connect with people who bring value to your life. The Universe operates on synchronicities, without fail and without exception. So, create space for the lovely souls to enter your life and your pain will disappear into nihility.
4. Connect with the Divine
Although we may have thousands of worries and we feel like lost souls, but the moment we take a leap of faith (which is obviously beyond the realms of the rational world), we have already set into motion a set of events that brings along the Divine Support. So meditate every day, connect to the Higher Self and end the curse of loneliness for eternity.
Let the Universe celebrate your presence on this planet, because you are not the mind where loneliness resides. You are the Consciousness that is the Source of every being. There is no way that Consciousness could be lonely!
Love and Light
Article by Dr. Jayashree Ramana
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Dr. Jayashree Ramana is a scientist and nutritionist. She uses Reiki healing as a part of her holistic healing program.
She is Usui Reiki Grand Master and practices Usui Reiki, Karuna Reiki, Crystal healing, Lama fera, Magnified healing, Emotional Freedom Technique(EFT), acupressure, etc. She is a fitness enthusiast and helps people achieve optimal levels of wellness by amalgamating physical measures including nutrition and exercise along with various alternative therapies. Her vision is to empower people and help them tap into their individual power while simultaneously creating a life of abundance and joy.
She is working as Senior Information Scientist at International Centre for Genetic Engineering and Biotechnology. She was formerly a university professor and scientist in the field of Biotechnology for a decade. Her own personal transformation with reiki sparked her passion for metaphysical sciences and this led her to found ‘The Healing Soul’.
Get in touch with Dr. Jayashree Ramana through her website www.thehealingsoul.in or you may reach her at firstname.lastname@example.org. Her youtube channel is www.youtube.com/c/DrJayashreeRamana.