When misunderstandings harsh judgments or angry words exist in relationships, it can be difficult to work through the problem. Often, one party has no desire to talk through the differences and find some kind of resolution. This person does not care if the relationship is ever mended; he is ready to move forward in his own life. Every form of communication ends. If the other one wishes for resolution, it can be difficult to let go of the relationship. It is easy to become obsessed with the “if only’s” – if only, I did not say the words I did; if only, I had one more chance to talk with him; if only, (fill in the blank).
Living in the space of unfinished business is difficult indeed! When communication ends, we may never understand what happened exactly, or if there was anything we could have done to save the relationship. It can become a dark cloud following us around, and we wonder if we will repeat what we did in future relationships.
Reiki can help us through the quagmire of these painful experiences. When Tom’s partner left their home, he was devastated. All she said, on the way out the door, was, “you never hear my point of view.” He had no idea what she meant, as he could not recall a disagreement in the past several weeks. She refused to answer his phone calls or emails. He was hurt and angry, and he felt helpless and alone.
Tom sought support from a psychotherapist and a Reiki practitioner. The psychotherapist listened to his perspective, allowing him to express his rage. He wanted to know exactly what he had done “wrong,” but his ex-partner would not talk to him. Through the therapist’s gentle prodding, he started to see the “red flags” that had always existed in the relationship. His acceptance of its ending grew. Through Reiki sessions, waves of emotional releases occurred. The emotional spaces were then filled with Universal Life Force energies of unconditional love and healing. Tom became more accepting of how this relationship ended.
Reiki works with us in many ways. In this case, Tom’s perspective changed when his emotions shifted. He was able to become more objective. He could see the relationship in a different light – problems between them had always been there. More importantly, he started to see the relationship as part of his life’s plan. He had learned some important life lessons during their time together. He shifted his life priorities from being mostly career-focused, to more relationship-focused. He became more compassionate towards those who had less than him. He fostered new friendships. He also chose to become a member of a spiritual community.
One of the greatest gifts of Reiki is its ability to help us form new perspectives on the events of our lives. When strong negative emotions are released, we can see events in a new light – a healing light. And for that, we give gratitude!
Article by Deborah Lloyd, Reiki Master
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Deborah Lloyd is a Usui and Karuna® Reiki Master and certified holistic therapy practitioner, providing Reiki sessions and training in Asheville, NC. Deborah is the author of two books, 22 Messages from the Archangels; and, Believe and it is True: A Story of Healing and Life Lessons. She is also one of the co-authors of Reiki 101: 101 Answers for Your Reiki Questions. Reach Deborah at http://www.deblloydhealing.com/, firstname.lastname@example.org and at Deb Lloyd Healing on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/deblloydhealing)