The Wound of Rejection

Article by Ashwini Chubé

After previously discussing the Wound of Abandonment and Healing it with Reiki and Archangel Metatron, let’s dive deeply into another major soul wound that keeps us separate from our own sense of self: the Wound of Rejection.

Are you Someone who always gets fired from one job after another?
Or Gets dumped by partners only to end up saying “Love is Difficult”?
Or Are always rejected and compared to others?

Then you’re probably suffering from the wound of rejection.

Before we move forward, here are 3 cases that exemplify this wound into our daily life:

Case 1:

While having a conversation with one of my coaching clients – a corporate professional from the IT sector – a very deep wound came up. “I feel rejected”, she said. “As if I’m not a priority and my feelings are not valid. The senior management makes me feel rejected and I’m not willing to speak up for myself because I feel they’ll never understand.” Her position in the company was a good one. However, she felt rejected and unable to get credit for her work and ideas. “Are you Rejecting parts of yourself so that you can be accepted by others?”, I asked her. She paused for a moment. She had never thought of it before. “Yes, I think so”, she answered. Over the next hour or so we discussed healing the wound.

Case 2:

A client in her late 20s came up with a unique dilemma. She was looking to “get settled” before 30, which in her case meant getting married, but didn’t have a boyfriend. Apparently, she was seeing prospective grooms on so-called matrimonial websites for arranged marriages. The problem was whenever she liked a profile, she got rejected. And the guys who approached her, she rejected them.

Case 3:

My next client is a man in his mid-30s. He was intelligent, smart, well-qualified, honest, and hardworking but kept losing jobs. The company or department he joined kept getting shut. For the last 7 years, he switched 5 jobs and 3 companies. He tried so hard to survive the job pressure that he couldn’t focus on career growth. Since his wife was self-employed and his daughter was in preschool, his tension was ever-increasing.

After we’ve seen all the above examples, let’s see what Rejection is and how it differs from Abandonment:

Definition of rejection: To reject means to resist, to despise or to refuse, what can be translated into “not liking” something or someone.

The basic difference between Abandonment and Rejection is in the confrontation.

• In abandonment, you abandon someone and don’t give any explanation or confrontation. As if it’s normal to move away, whether it’s physical or emotional.
• When we talk about rejection, you are confronting and telling someone, consciously or unconsciously, that they are not good enough and this is the cause of your distance towards them.

Well, both emotions are complicated yet important to heal and overcome your life challenges.

How does the wound of rejection feel like?

• Feeling left out or excluded.
• Feeling not prioritised or heard.
• Feeling not been acknowledged or honored.
• Feeling not being validated.
• Feeling being different.
• Feeling lacking something.
• Always being compared and feeling not good enough.

Symptoms of the wound of rejection:

1. People reject your opinions and ideas. You are almost never heard.
2. You are not recognized for your work. Someone else steals your idea and gets the credit for it.
3. You get many rejections in all aspects of life: eg interviews, clients or even romantic partners.
4. You are afraid to stand up for yourself because you’ll be rejected if you express your truth.
5. You would rather go with the crowd than express your opinion due to the fear of being rejected.
6. You keep comparing yourself with everyone else around you and feel you are not good enough.
7. You feel compelled to keep unhealthy jobs in order to earn money and buy things to impress people you dislike.

Possible causes:

The typical cause of rejection is feeling invalidated as a child or young adult.

• Emotional expression not being encouraged or accepted.
• Your opinions not being valued.
• You were being told or taught not to be yourself.
• You were constantly being compared to someone ideal – a sibling, friend, cousin.
• You were told time and again to fit in.
• You were being told to behave in a certain manner.
• Too many rules and no self-expression.

How to Heal the Wound of Rejection:

Now that you have identified your wound, let’s look step by step at healing it.

Healing the wound could take time – it may be a few weeks or months or even years. Or it can happen instantly or anywhere in between.

We can use the following Reiki technique of healing the wounds:

• Light a candle to begin.
• Keep close by a paper/journal and a pen.
• Sit in a place where you won’t be disturbed.
• Take 8-10 deep breaths.
• Invoke the presence of Archangel Michael and ask him to shield you against any negative energies. Also, ask him to silence your ego.
• Ask Archangel Gabriel to help you communicate effectively and Archangel Uriel to get more clarity.
• Draw CKR and HSZSN and chant their names three times.
• Ask Reiki energy to guide you to ground your energy.
• Now take the journal and draw the Reiki symbols on the top.
• Ask these questions to yourself now –and use the pen to answer them:
  1. Where are you rejecting yourself?
  2. Why are you rejecting parts of you?
  3. Who rejected you in the first place in your life?
  4. How did you feel then?
  5. How can you accept that part of you right now?
  6. Through which ways are you resisting to and not accepting that part of you?
• After journaling, you can also ask the Reiki energy to heal your body where this stuck stagnant energy of rejection is trapped. I typically feel it in the heart, solar plexus, and throat chakras but it could be different for everyone.
• Next, draw SHK and the Harth symbol of Karuna Reiki while saying
  “I am now willing to accept myself the way I am.”
• Do this for at least 21 days – a lot of things will be revealed. You can ask Archangels Raphael and Uriel to help you.

And yes – after doing this, please do send me your feedback. This work looks simple but it’s very much effective.

Remember you are always loved even if sometimes it feels otherwise. Wishing you love and light on your journey.

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Dr Ashwini Chube is a Usui Reiki Grandmaster since 2014 and holds a Ph.D. in Energy Medicine. She practices Usui Reiki - Karuna reiki - Excalibur Reiki - Angel Medicine - Violet Flame Healing - Lavender Flame Healing and many more modalities.
Ashwini is also an Access Consciousness Bars, Body Process & Intro class Facilitator. Ashwini is an Angel Psychic - Divine Channel -Tarot Reader & Claircognizant and also the teacher of Angel studies. She is a Life Transformation coach and also a Twin flame coach. Ashwini is also an Ascension teacher with the Diana Cooper School of White Light and takes workshops on Ascension and also facilitates Spiritual retreats.
Ashwini works on Body movement as a therapy and is also a licensed Zumba Fitness instructor and takes in person and online sessions.
Being an ex-investment banker working previously in Mumbai & London - she is an impact speaker and Life Transformation Coach with corporates and groups.
Get in touch with Ashwini through her Website: www.unicorninsight.com or at [email protected]. Her Facebook page is: facebook.com/ashwinichubeofficial