Article by Deborah Lloyd, Reiki Master
In my series on Challenging Client, another category to explore is the Unworthy Client – the person who thinks he is unworthy of being healed – although he continues to participate in Reiki treatments. Often, the Reiki practitioner hears confusing, contradictory comments from this client. The client may say he seeks healing, but also says he does not think healing is a possibility for him.
What is frequently underneath these comments is a core belief; that is, I am not worthy, or not good enough, to be blessed with healing. This belief is usually formed as a child, when he received overt and/or subtle messages that he is “less than” other people in the world. He may have been told he was a “bad” boy, or told he is only lovable when he does the right things. In other words, he was raised in an atmosphere of conditional love.
As all energy healing facilitators know, every person is unconditionally loved by the Supreme Power. This Divine Love does not bestow unconditional love on certain people, and then, not to others. This Love is not based on our behaviors, but rather by the simple fact we are human beings – and all human beings are loved, whether we are aware of it or not.
What is challenging about these clients is that the beliefs of unworthiness result in emotional and mental blocks. While Reiki energies can dissolve these blockages, clients’ thoughts after the session will create new energy blocks.
There are some actions that the Reiki practitioner can take:
- Treat all clients with unconditional love. For some people, it may be the first time they have received this kind of non-judgmental and respectful regard.
- If the client tells her story, use active listening. Provide reassurance she too can be healed.
- If a client makes derogatory comments about herself, gently remind her she is a good, lovable person. When appropriate, discuss positive affirmations, encouraging daily use of them.
- If you receive any impressions or messages about the client’s perceptions of self, please share with the client, adding words of support regarding her healing path.
- Reiki always directs itself to the root cause of a problem. Remember it will heal the past – ie, the emotional effects of conditional love can be healed.
- If you do not know what to say or how to respond, ask for spiritual guidance; it will be provided to you.
Please know beliefs regarding unworthiness have usually been with clients for decades, and it will take time for a person to truly believe they deserve to be whole again. This is a good reminder for both you and your client. Many times, people become discouraged because they think once they understand a problem, it will automatically disappear. If a belief was years in the making, it will take time to reverse it. Reiki, however, can certainly accelerate the process.
One of the best affirmations a Reiki practitioner can receive is when a client truly heals from this false belief of unworthiness. Giving gratitude for these challenging clients will likely bring more of these clients your way!
P.S. If you missed Part I of the Challenging Client series by RM Deborah Lloyd, click here and get the valuable insights.
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Deborah Lloyd is a Usui and Karuna® Reiki Master and certified holistic therapy practitioner, providing Reiki sessions and training in Asheville, NC. Deborah is the author of two books, 22 Messages from the Archangels; and, Believe and it is True: A Story of Healing and Life Lessons. She is also one of the co-authors of Reiki 101: 101 Answers for Your Reiki Questions. Reach Deborah at http://www.deblloydhealing.com/, firstname.lastname@example.org and at Deb Lloyd Healing on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/deblloydhealing)