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Narcissists, No Contact and Reiki

Article by Rev. Dr. Tracy Cox, DD

In my work as a member of the clergy, I facilitate a Healing from Narcissistic Abuse support group for the victims of narcissists. In this large and active group, I use my training as a Reiki Master Teacher very frequently. Reiki is an incredibly useful tool for helping these members heal from the trauma and abuse that they have suffered at the hands of narcissists.

Narcissistic abuse is a very devastating form of abuse that gets down deep into the subconscious of the victim and causes them to question everything about themselves. Quite often, the victim decides to take the very serious step of going “no contact” with their abuser. In this way, they can give themselves the space to heal away from toxic individuals. Learning Reiki is an incredibly effective way to support the victim in their quest for peace.

The concept of “no contact” has shown itself to be a very effective tool in healing from Narcissistic Abuse. No contact is usually used when there is simply no other way to deal with the soul crushing abuse of a narcissist, which eventually causes the victim to question every single thing about themselves. Victims can often feel suicidal because they literally think that there is no other way out. No contact gives the victim their life back, but can be very difficult to accomplish, as narcissistic abusers are frequently very close to the victim. Friends, family, spouses or co-workers can all be narcissistic abusers. When a person goes no contact with their abusers, quite often their entire world needs to be rearranged. This is where Reiki comes in!

Narcissists, No Contact and Reiki

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The beauty of Reiki is in its simplicity. It is very easy to use our knowledge of Reiki to help the members of a support group in a variety of ways. Here are a few ideas that I have found effective.

Use Simple Reiki style meditations to help your members find peace and calm in the middle of a crisis

One of my favorite easy healing meditations is to simply have the members shut their eyes and then think of their entire bodies as hollow. Then, using their imaginations, get them to breathe in through their nose, filling their body up with the white healing light of the Universal Life Force, and have them imagine that this loving, healing energy is cleaning and perfecting all of their cells. When they exhale through their mouths, get them to picture that the stress and tension are leaving their bodies in an imaginary puff of smoke. Get them to do this inhale/exhale meditation a few times, and the last time, get them to imagine that the white healing light is surrounding them in a protective orb of positive spiritual energy. This simple meditation has helped so many of my support group members and students because it is easy to understand and perform. Try it yourself and see!

Send the Reiki Symbols to help victims in their road to no contact

After getting permission, send the Reiki symbols, by distance, to the member that is in crisis during their set up of no contact with their abuser. No contact can be incredibly difficult to launch, because the abuser can be someone who is in the victim’s day to day lives. Support group members require extra spiritual support at the time of launching no contact, and distance Reiki can help so much in making the right decisions and staying strong during this phase of healing from Narcissistic Abuse.

Teach the members of your support group Reiki

If your members are receptive, suggest that they learn Reiki from you, and get their attunements and certification. The benefits of learning Reiki and using it to do daily self-healing as well as sending the symbols to difficult situations that arise cannot be overstated. I have seen miracles in member’s lives when they learn Reiki. As they heal themselves with the beautiful Reiki energy, they see that they are a worthwhile, spiritual person who is in charge of their lives and their healing. They learn to eliminate toxic individuals from their lives, and how to maintain “no contact” with their narcissistic abusers. Once this is done, life opens up to these members and the beauty of living in the “divine flow” becomes something that they treasure and defend at all costs. Reiki gives members of support groups the spiritual strength that they need to make their dreams of peace and happiness into reality. What a beautiful and important use for Reiki! Try it with any support group that you are involved with, and see for yourself.

Reiki is a powerful healing language that we all can share for the betterment and healing of humanity.

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Rev. Dr. Tracy Cox

Rev. Dr. Tracy Cox, DD is a Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritual Mentor and Coach. She works with clients and students worldwide by phone or webcam, and in person at her private office in Aurora, Ontario, Canada. She has an active spiritual ministry, and is an Ordained Minister who has been awarded her Doctor of Divinity degree. Her doctoral dissertation was focused on scientific research proving the power of prayer. She uses the information from her research to help her clients heal and overcome their challenges in all areas. For more info, please see www.revdrtracycox.com or connect with her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/revdrtracycox

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  • Sue Wang February 25, 2019, 9:16 pm

    It’s wonderful to give the gift of [learning] Reiki, so that people can do self-care when in a difficult situation or healing from long term abuse. Thanks for this article.

  • Diane I. February 26, 2019, 4:00 am

    I was married to a Narcissist for your years. He passed a away from Cancer in 2017. I was devastated then I found Reiki and became whole…..Light and Love.

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