Article by Anna Marks
It’s that kind of love where Cupidon’s arrow hits you right in the center of your soul, having visions, past live scenes running through your mind with you two making deep commitments and sharing sacred moments. After eons of separation, you finally met. Now what?
Some might describe it as a soul mate, cosmic lover, the other half. In fact, it might be karma so pay attention! If you know yourself as being an empath, as going on your spiritual journey and projecting on the outside world the inner work that needs to be done, please look twice before falling for those “cosmic lovers”.
Usually, empaths attract narcissists. While the empath starts loving deep and unconditionally, the narcissist has no intention of developing a stronger connection but feeds that “special bond that is impossible to break” illusion for the empath. Narcissists love this constant attention and control, love to be the sole center of the empath’s universe, feel satisfied when people are obsessed with them.
What happens is that the narcissist will start a very well-developed manipulation scheme to break the empath’s self-esteem. And it’s very hard for the empath to see it because the narcissist will never openly attack the empath; all on the contrary, the narcissist will make the empath believe that he/she is doing all possible to keep the relationship going despite all the tests and obstacles put by God itself to prove their love to each other. The narcissist will always present him/herself as the victim of the situation, the knight in shining armor who’s fighting dragons to rescue the damsel aka the empath.
The empath truly is in love so he/she will believe everything the narcissist is saying, will try to help, take care of, cheer up, understand the narcissist even with the most outrageous ideas and behaviors. “There must be a good reason why he/she’s doing it. I just don’t understand it yet! He/she is protecting our bond. There are forces which I cannot understand.” The empath will find excuses for the narcissist’s behavior because feels receiving unconditional love from him/her. In fact, what is felt is the empath’s own unconditional love towards the relationship.
As time goes by, all the connection will be about what the narcissist wants, feels, desires, and so on. The empath starts to see something is not ok with the entire situation, but the attraction is very strong and keeps pleasing the narcissist even though isn’t happy in the relationship. Maybe the empath will start giving even more affection, devotion, effort, love, and care, but remember! – the more the empath gives, the more in control the narcissist feels.
When the breaking point is reached and the empath finally wakes up and speaks the inner truth about his/her feelings with the narcissist, the narcissist will call them crazy, delusional, over-dramatic, egoic, unconscious, limited, dismissing any of the empath’s efforts to save the relationship and manipulating again to regain the control. The empaths fail to understand this behavior and will start blaming themselves for everything that goes wrong in the relationship – I’m not good enough, I’m not worthy of love, I’m not special enough to be with him/her, I could have done it better, so on… Unfortunately, they fail to accept that they are being manipulated once again. Narcissists have a twisted way of reality in their minds and usually make the empaths doubt their own perception and sanity.
Honest communication with a narcissist is pointless. The blame will always be passed to the empath. Empaths should accept the situation and their feelings of being confused, lost, deeply hurt, accepting their role as healers and acknowledging their inner strength to overcome any challenge they might face.
In the end, when probably will be too late – since the empath always tries and tries, going against the wind – the empath will realize that the narcissist doesn’t deserve their affection, love, and care. Accepting the narcissist will never change and never open up to anybody will be a painful revelation and awakening for the empath. Here’s the end of a toxic relationship between two cosmic/karmic lovers.
If this happened to you…
Maybe it’s time to reconsider your life scenario and write your own script. Set healthy boundaries, don’t fall again for that “cosmic lovers” concept – most people are using it to cover huge emotional issues. I’m not saying a cosmic bond is impossible for everyone, but before re-entering into something so powerful like this, practice presence, notice everything, be aware and pay attention to the smallest details, make sure you’re grounded. Just listen and watch, observe the person. Remember most narcissists are extremely wise and intelligent, having amazing manipulative skills and colorful past, maybe ADHD or OCD in their medical records. Otherwise, it’s very hard to notice the narcissist’s lies since he/she believes its own lies – will give you details, will be in control of the situation.
If this didn’t happen to you…
It might not be too late! So be present in everything you do, set healthy boundaries, grow your self-love and self-esteem, ground yourself and stand in your own inner power. Take this article as a warning sign.
Reiki blessings to you all!
Biography: https://thepowerofsilence.co/21-stages-of-the-relationship-between-a-narcissist-and-an-empath/
When I read this article was like it was written especially for me so I wanted to share the insights with our community to raise awareness regarding this “immortal, deep, never-ending, divine” type of relationship.
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Anna Marks is part of the Reiki Rays Team since 2016. She is a freelance writer and a freelance soul. Although she got in touch with many healing methods and teachings, her journey made her realize we are our own authority and there is only one Truth that unite us all – unconditional love. She has only one thought for you – Learn to love yourself just as much as God loves you. Reach Anna at anna@reikirays.com.
What if someone identifies that he/she himself/herself is a spiritual narcissists. What shall be done to heal himself/ herself? The fact is I many times feels that I behave in same way towards my partner. In this case, what can be done to heal the mindset. I will myself try to find a way.
Hi Vaibhav,
The first step will be to become more and more aware and observe these narcissistic patterns. Over time, you’ll be able to create space and instead of reacting, you will start responding to your partner. Many people are involved in toxic relationships. Mostly due to our childhood, many of us become narcissists, getting energetically stuck to an emotional age of under 3 years old.
Anna, I just now came across your articles! I don’t know why I had not seen one before. Wonderful article and so powerful. Thank you for sharing this. I can relate to your story. 💕🙏🏽💕
Hi,
I have one question.
I m taking reikii healig from last so many years. I m not geting heal and I felt that I am having adverse effect . Geting deper and deper dependence on reikii .
I felt that if not geting reiki than not able to do any work …..
Is it true ?