Are we disregarding Reiki Ethics?


Article by Reiki Master Sunetra Dasgupta

Hello, Beautiful Souls!

How are you doing today? I am back with my next article and hope you enjoy it as much as you enjoyed the last one!

In Reiki, the ethics and principles are considered in the highest regard. The three most important ethics of Reiki are

1. Never give Reiki for free

We are asked to always have an energy exchange for Reiki or compare Reiki with gold, for the simple reason, when things are given complimentary people do not have gratitude for it or is just taken for granted, and in Reiki gratitude is the foremost important thing. It doesn’t matter a person has faith or not, but gratitude is important.

2. Do not heal without permission

The Reiki ethics strictly mentions that we should not heal anyone without permission; it’s a different story of course when we give healing to plants, animals, or someone who is in a comatose state. It’s said that the reason is: there are many people who may not want to get healed, or they are just happy in whatever state they are for whatever reason. We are no one to interfere with a person’s freewill.

3. Do not get attached to the outcome

Reiki always heals for the highest good; we cannot “force” the energy to flow in a certain direction. If we get attached to the outcome, we are not only blocking our own progress, but we fail to see the goodness that Reiki brings to us. Sometimes Reiki manifest our heart desires, sometimes not. As Reiki will give us what we need and not what we want.

The above three Reiki ethics are ingrained in us since the first level, but somewhere we forget them, or we think that Reiki is such a beautiful energy no one can disregard its effects! There are so many beautiful souls out there who give a lot of free healing to people all over the world, Thanks to social media, people post on Facebook, Instagram etc. how they would send healing to everyone, and loads of people would accept and show a lot of gratitude to them. I have immense respect for people who do and I was one of them who would send healing to people every Friday who are there on my broadcast list and thought I was doing a wonderful job along with many other by sending beautiful energies to everyone and it would help people a lot.

Are we disregarding Reiki Ethics
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One fine day, I got a whatsapp message from this person to remove her from my broadcast list; I did without asking any question, as it was her choice. Once I informed her that she was removed, I got back a long message which I quote below

“You are a Reiki Teacher, do not consider yourself as God. I have not asked you for any healing, then who the hell asked you to send me any. If you think I need any help from you or anyone else who does ooga booga you are mistaken.”

Of course, the message has been shortened and toned down by removing the expletives, but her message did not hurt me, what dawned on me was that I kept sending healing to people, irrespective of they wanted it or not, they may not even have gratitude either. Was I almost forcing my “goodness” on them? I do not know, but really gave me a “Mikao Usui Moment”, where he started crying when he saw the lepers he had healed started begging again.

As a healer, we become so empathetic, that when we see someone in trouble or pain, our Heart chakra keeps expanding, and we give them healing. When someone says they are in pain or trouble our almost automatic response is “I shall send healing to you.” We don’t ask why and what happened, we just want it to heal, we don’t even bother about the energy exchange! I have got so many responses which says, no don’t heal or no I don’t want healing. I think it’s high time we stop taking it for granted that, everyone who is hurt shall need healing, and before sending let’s just ASK and take some kind of ENERGY EXCHANGE. By giving it away without any energy exchange we are not holding the energies in the highest regard, which is unfair on our part. If we really want to do some charity healing, let’s give it to Mother Earth every day. If Mother Earth gets nourished we all shall will.

Also before sending the article to Reiki Rays, I had sent it to my Reiki colleague and Reiki Rays writer Vedant Borah, to ask him his opinion, and he gave me such a beautiful insight, that I couldn’t hold myself back from sharing this with all of you. He said when a person is in pain/trouble and you are unable to take permission from them, you can heal them only if you are also getting affected by it directly or indirectly. If I see an accident on the road which doesn’t even affect me, I shall not send Reiki without permission, but I shall pray for them. Pray that all is well, and they live a happy life etc. whatever the condition is.

We are just mere mediums, chosen by this beautiful modality, we cannot consider ourselves God. Till the time we don’t have permission, we should not heal others or their karmas, it backfires on us. When we send healing (paid or unpaid), we know that healing works for the greatest good. But some people do not consider as humans, we are as basic as anyone else, or as special as anyone else, the energies are universal and it’s our souls call to harness this energies or not. We cannot manipulate energies to give a person their desired result, people will get what they need, what we can do is we can ease the process.

A number of times we have seen in Reiki healing, that a relation breaks off, or a person who has been suffering for a long time, transits from this third dimension physical world, and we get blamed for the relation breaking up or the person dying or many other things. The fact is the relationship was not good for them, or the person has suffered far too long! Their soul decided to take a call.

I have learned my lessons well and in a hard way, even though Mikao Usui had put the ethics out there in black and white, somewhere we are so engrossed and embraced in the love of Reiki, we tend to forget these tiny details which may impact us in a negative manner.

Let’s not have yet another “Mikao Usui Moment” in our lives, he took the brunt for us, and yet we keep repeating the same mistakes! Let’s learn from each other and have a very happy and a safe practice. Even after healing a certain situation if things don’t go our way, just thank Reiki for showing you the right path, which may not always be easy but shall be worth it. Let’s concentrate more on healing ourselves, our chakras, meridians etc. and as we align to the energies of the Universe, things will automatically start falling in place. As for others, when we are healing, let’s give them a disclaimer, Reiki will work for the greatest good. If this is right for you, it shall work out, else it won’t.

Happy Reiking Guys!

Blessed Be <3

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Sunetra Dasgupta
Sunetra Dasgupta

When she is not a professor teaching undergraduate students Mathematics, Statistics, and Business Communication, Sunetra Dasgupta is a Reiki Teacher. She is emotionally attached to Reiki as she feels, when she was nowhere, Reiki came to rescue her. She has channeled Gajanan Vinayak Reiki, and heals and teaches Traditional (Usui) Reiki, Karmic Reiki, Karuna® Reiki, Soulmate Reiki, Fusion Reiki, Wagle Reiki, Angel Reiki, Tiger Reiki, Lavender Flame Reiki, 30 more types of Reiki, Magnified Healing, DLA, Akashic Records, Access Consciousness, Aura Brushing, Cord Removal, Hypnotherapy, Past Life Regression, EFT, Psychic Surgery, Angel and Tarot Card Reading, Runes, Tasseography, Violet Flame, Herbs and Oils, Candle Magick. She is also an Angel whisperer. She lives in India and can be followed on her Facebook Reiki Page: Soniele Daniel Reiki Her Tarot Page which she has formed with 2 other members and her crystal page She has also written a book “Lessons I learned from Reiki” which can be bought from


  1. Thanks for the article with good reminders. I’d like to ask, as a reiki rookie, sometimes I will send reiki to someone from afar but I stipulate that I’d like them to receive the reiki only if they are open to it. Is this ok? I’ve always wondered.

  2. Thanks for the article….I always try to remember to say few words before giving Reiki… May the Highest Good of Reiki flow to a person…or situation….etc….If any body rejects….Reiki please flow to Mother Earth…
    love &light to all…..

  3. I have been doing Reiki since 2009. I had quite alot of clients then. Then in 2013 i met a french lady who thought me about Ego. One day while in her meditation class i saw an image of a witch. After the meditation i discussed this with her and she got all defensive since then i never went back to her but my clientele has dropped severely. I am nursing as well and do advanced wound healing. When i do wounds i can feel energy flowing, and i do get a salary does this qualify for not giving reiki for free. And can you help me in case i have a bad atachement and how to remove it. I have broken all ties and cords with lady but a lot of bad things happend to me and my family afterwards.

  4. Ki, Chi, Prana, Vril, or what ever you want to call it; Is a GIFT; given free of Charge by the Masters of Creation; Father Truth & Mother Wisdom. WE are merely conduits. The energy flows THRU us, & as we allow, so we also receive. THAT is the exchange. If those who receive wish to give you something for your time, then that is their prerogative, & their Gift…but saying that it is mandatory is Spitting in the face of our creators, who maintain the universe & charge nothing.

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