Article by Taryn Walker
From time to time I receive a booking for one of my distant Reiki sessions and when I send the payment request I get an anger-fuelled reply saying that healing should be free because energy is free. Often this is accompanied by a big rant about money and how healers these days only care about making more of it.
Firstly, I’m always in shock at the way some people choose to speak to others on the internet. I know most of these lost souls would never dare to confront me with such disrespect in person. Some will simply send a message saying “Send Reiki now.” No introduction, no explanation, just a rude demand. Excuse me, there is a human being on the other end of that contact form!
I don’t think of my services as a healer to be more special than the services offered by a plumber. We need different things at different times and everyone who provides a service has an important place in their community. Would you ever think to ask a plumber for free plumbing? Imagine sending the plumber a message saying, “Unblock my pipes, now!” and expecting him to do it for free…
To say that healing should be free because energy is free would only make sense if healing was the only kind of energy that existed. But everything is energy, including money. When you pay for Reiki you are simply exchanging one kind of energy with another kind of energy.
On the rare occasions that I receive hate-mail for charging for my services as a healer I take the time to kindly reply and offer my view on this. That usually ends the conversation, which is a pity, as I would love to gain a deeper understanding from these people personally. I’m guessing it’s partly to do with a subconscious block against money, which thinks of money as evil or dirty. I’ve been there and I’ve done a lot of work to heal this unfortunate belief as money finds it very difficult to come to you if you think badly of it.
I understand how frustrating it is to feel like you never have enough money so I’m able to have compassion for those who contact me in rage about having to pay for Reiki. I just wish there could be a more civilised dialogue around the issue as I could probably offer the kind of advice needed to begin to heal these beliefs around money and healing.
For the healers reading this, I hope that you feel comfortable charging for your services. For karmic reasons it’s important that there is an energetic exchange, especially with healing. I wish for all healers to really value what you have to offer so as to enjoy the monetary exchange. You probably spent a lot of money on your training. It takes time and money to prepare a special healing space for your clients. It’s likely that you often give more of your time than agreed upon for your healing sessions.
So let’s heal all this nonsense about free healing.
Healers are offering a service just like anyone else in the service industry. If you want to be an accountant you study accounting. If you want to be a Reiki healer you learn Reiki. I chose Reiki as my profession because I love it and it suits my temperament. I love holding space for people to have the healing experience they’re ready for. I don’t earn nearly as much as an accountant simply because society doesn’t value Reiki as much as it does accounting. That’s just the way the world is right now, though we need accountants as much as we need healers.
I spent over 5 years training in Reiki practice before I started charging for treatments. I value what I have to offer because of the time, commitment and money I’ve put into my business. The healing work itself I would do for free if living did not require making money. It’s my passion and it comes naturally to me. I see amazing results in my clients and I know what I have to offer is valuable. I’ve chosen to value myself and my offerings despite being undervalued by a largely unspiritual society.
Of course healing can be offered as a gift in certain circumstances. Many hospitals welcome Reiki practitioners as volunteers to help those suffering with chronic or terminal illness. If you find yourself at the scene of an accident, don’t hesitate to discreetly offer Reiki to those in need. I share Reiki with my Dad as often as possible, and would never dream of asking him to pay, as he’s half of the reason I’m here in this world. From time to time I offer free group healing sessions, sometimes as a thank you to those who book sessions with me, for those who cannot afford a session or just in celebration of a solstice or a special moon.
So I’m not saying that healing should never be free. I’m calling for us all to heal our issues with money, to respect the monetary value someone places on their healing services and to speak to each other nicely on the internet, please.
I will continue to take the time to respond courteously to the few angry souls who expect my offerings for free without even bothering to introduce themselves. I will continue to value my services as a healer so as to let others know how I wish to be valued. I will consider all the unseen time, effort and money someone has put into their product or service before judging it as too expensive.
Let’s take the fact that everything is energy really seriously and play the game that this presents to us. Let’s enjoy spending money on things that are good for us. Instead of feeling like we’re losing money by paying for something, instead recognise that you’re gaining something through a simple and even sacred exchange of energy.
When you value yourself and your offerings, it gives others permission to value themselves and they will then know how to value you too.
This wasn’t meant to be a post about self love but, as usual, that’s what it all boils down to.
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Taryn Walker is a traveling Reiki Master Teacher who wishes to inspire people to realise that they are miraculous! She believes that Reiki can reveal our natural ability to heal ourselves and this empowers us to take responsibility for our lives. She works a lot with distant Reiki and loves the way it allows people to experience the illusion of separation. Taryn is grateful for being able to connect with her Reiki clients even while traveling. She usually lives on a little island in Thailand, where she practices and teaches Reiki, but finds ‘home’ wherever she is. Taryn enjoys yoga, nature, creating art, cooking and finding magic in “ordinary” places. Follow her here: http://reiki-alchemy.com/, http://www.facebook.com/alchemyhealing, and http://bit.ly/reikialchemyoutube.