Stop Negative Self Talk with Reiki, and Start Your Day Off Right!

Article by Patti Deschaine

Many of us are our own worst enemies.  We say things to ourselves that we would not put up with from anyone else. These are often habits of a lifetime, learned from an early age.  Examine your own inner dialog. Some of us have negativity running as a constant soundtrack.  I’ll admit, I can be a prime example.  Many times I have to correct myself from saying things like:

  • What’s wrong with you?
  • Omg, I am so stupid.
  • I’m too old to (dance, ski, start a new relationship…)
  • I’m ugly.
  • I hate my wrinkles.

Well, you get the picture.  Fortunately Reiki provides a kinder, gentler alternative to negative self talk. We don’t  have  to allow a dirty stream of negative thoughts to control our day.

Negative thoughts that don’t affect you personally will be the easier to start with. You can work your way up as you get more comfortable with rooting out negativity and replacing it with positive.

Of course, we think about things and weigh them as good or bad on a constant basis. Don’t try to change a lifetime of negative thinking all at once.  Start small. Pay attention to how you view the world in general. For example, try replacing “It’s so hot today already!” with “Guess I’ll enjoy this summer weather while it lasts.”

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Once you’ve had some practice you can move on to your personal  sludge fund of negative thinking. Be brave, starting with your morning ritual. We know you critically examine every new crease and wrinkle, but really, is it something you can change? Before you even catch a glimpse of yourself this morning, resolve to be kind. “I like my hair this length” is a great beginning.

Most importantly, start your day by connecting to energy. You can be too busy to do this, that’s your choice. It is also your choice to start the day frazzled and negative. Take the time to connect to universal energy. Your day will be SO much better. It does not have to be a long process. I like to start my day connecting to energy and reviewing the Reiki precepts. Send some distance Reiki to those you know to be in need or just ask the universe to direct some energy to where it is needed.

Once I am in a good space, I like to pull an oracle card as a clue to what the day holds  in store for me. You can add your own personal preference here. Maybe hold  a crystal or two and just sit quietly for a minute. Meditation is always a good choice to center and balance you.

Use the symbols to change negative thoughts to positive throughout your day.

  • Use Cho Ku Rei when you connect to increase your personal energy.
  • Take a Reiki shower and brush that negativity away with Sei He Kei.
  • Send distance Reiki to those who need it with Hon Sha Ze Sho Nen.

LISTEN to what goes on in your head and correct it immediately.

Here’s the thing…if we don’t support ourselves as healers and lightworkers, how is it possible for us to transmit that which we don’t possess? The world needs our positive energy now more than ever. Take care of yourself. You are important.

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Patti Deschaine

Patti Deschaine

Patti Deschaine is a traditionally trained Usui Reiki Master, Lightarian Reiki Master, and owner of Maja Energy Works and Reiki Healing. She resides and practices in Wilmington, NC. She enjoys all types of Reiki and particularly loves using Reiki on animals. Patti can be found at and


  1. Patti, I appreciated your article, especially that it was concrete and actually provided smart ideas that are user-friendly for all of us who struggle with any negative self-talk.

  2. I love this article, and needed to be reminded of the negative self-talk that I indulge in. Thank you so much. I will start the change now!!!!

  3. Thanks for such wonderful ideas . They seem so simple and yet effective.Reiki is like a family tradition for us as both my parents and my sister are also reiki channels.In fact my niece expressed her desire to learn reiki as she saw the benefits for herself and got an attunement last month and she is only 16.Please continue the excellent work you are doing by helping people improve the quality of their lives.

  4. I have only been practicing Reiki for a short time. Just went to level II. The article was just what I needed. Thank you!

    • I don’t know how I missed this comment, but sorry for the late response. A Reiki shower is when you get reiki energy flowing then use your hands to “wash” away negative energy until you feel only fresh clean energy washing over you

    • If you get quiet, you can use your intent and your breath to connect to energy for self healing. However, I would recommend attunement to strengthen your connection. Many classes are available and reasonably priced. You can also be distance attuned Enjoy.

    • I tried without attunement but when i did level 1 I felt the energy and even more so eith level 2. The attunement strengthens the intent. But the bonus is you can really feel the energy flowing.

      Its a worthy investment and you have this for life.

  5. This is very helpful. Thank you so much. I love reading all of your articles. . I have some gorgeous amethyst reiki stones but am not sure the best way to use them. Any suggestions?

    • Ah, amethyst is one of my favorite stones. It has such a powerful, calming influence. There are many uses for amethyst. If you sit with it quietly, it is a great mediation stone and will help you to connect to spirit and to your higher self. I like to keep mine near my workstation to cleanse and destress me during the day. The are also known to help with addictions and sobriety.

      Crystals are such a fabulous healing method. If you don’t have much experience with them, I would urge you to find out more. They are fascinating.

  6. Hi patti
    Thank you very much for ur informative n useful article…we often indulge in negative self talk…ur article is based on present in the moment concept..
    Thnk u

    • The master symbol Dai Ko Myo is one that can assist with self awareness, personal growth and to remove negative energy. By all means, if you are attuned to this symbol, it is a great addition to your self healing and will increase your intuition. Always use what feels right to you and ask your guides for clarity if you need to.

  7. Enjoy reading your articles with all the great suggestions. Will definitely put them to practice. Thanks so much. Paula

  8. I have been waking up with very negative thoughts everyday for the past month (this is due to my beloved boyfriend whom I hoped to marry being in a coma after a motorcycle accident) so I will certainly be giving this ago thank you for your guidance xxx

  9. Thank you I need to be reminded life is a challenge with all the obstacles were surrounded by. I was about to burn in cent then meditate after that have a shower to cleanse my self. Name see have a wonderful day to all!!!

  10. Patti love reading your articles! It’s been almost a year I became a Reiki Master! I just love what Reiki done for I looking for a building so I could get my business going I do have some clients already !!

  11. so wise i often forget and let thoughts take over thank you for advice. will start my morning affirmations again with cho ku rae xx✨

  12. I can attest to the fact that starting the day with reiki is worth the while. What helps is also to do a HSZSN to the next day before you got to sleep.

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