Article by Angie Webster
Communication in our relationships can be one of the most challenging aspects of life. When it’s going well, it feels divine and we feel seen and gratified. But when we are not conveying our thoughts and feelings well or receiving those of others around us, we experience a sense of loss and disconnection. It hurts and it feels deeply lonely, often triggering feelings of fear or hostility in response.
These things go even deeper when we are dealing with the primary relationships in our lives. We rely on the people in our families for emotional support and other types of support as well. When we are having a hard time communicating with our parent, child or partner, the pain is felt much more deeply than if it were anyone else. And yet, even in the best relationships, there are times when communication becomes strained or when a difficult conversation must be had.
Poor communication is one of the most damaging things in our homes and in the world. It leads to so many other problems, either immediately or as a consequence of the communication difficulty.
Reiki can help with these times. Below is a list of suggestions that you can consider.
- As with any situation where you are facing difficulty, you can pause for a moment and offer yourself Reiki. Even if you feel you don’t have time to do this in the moment, that may be the best reason to pause and place your hand over your heart and send yourself Reiki. When we feel hurried, urgent and stressed, we seldom think clearly and often make very unwise decisions. Best to slow down for a few seconds. You could even step into the restroom for a momentary sanity break and just breathe and do self Reiki for 30-60 seconds as a reset.
- Consider sending Reiki to the person you need to communicate with. Even if you are frustrated with them or angry. Especially if you are angry! Reiki can help soothe your feelings and ease the communication issues in both of you, paving the way for each of you to speak more peacefully and to listen more from the heart. You can offer Reiki from a distance, only to their Higher Self, if that is what the situation calls for.
- If the person you are communicating with is also Reiki attuned, ask them if they are willing to do self Reiki with you before beginning a conversation that you know will be challenging, or before continuing one you are having difficulty with. If they agree, sit quietly with each other for 2-3 minutes while each of you do self Reiki and when you both feel ready, resume the conversation from a loving place. You might also consider joining together in sending Reiki to the conversation itself. This is a very loving gesture to do, which sends the message that you are ultimately both on the same team, with the same goal of peaceful interaction, even if you may have different thoughts and feelings.
- During any conversation, you can choose to keep your hand over your heart and let Reiki flow continuously or keep returning your hand there as often as you need a Reiki boost.
Remember, we are all doing the best we can, from the place we are in this moment. This includes yourself. Try to set aside any thoughts of harsh judgement that may arise during communication. Most of us are not able to lovingly process these thoughts in the heat of a difficult conversation and we say things that damage us and others. Let yourself calm down and then decide what you would like to do with those thoughts, if they are still with you.
Angie Webster is a Reiki Master Teacher and author. Angie’s primary focus is animal Reiki, which she adores. She also teaches classes and workshops about Reiki and spiritual growth. She works often with nature healing and Earth healing, hoping to better understand our connection with Mother Earth. Angie is the author of Infinite Reiki, Infinite Healing: How Energy Medicine Healed my Life and What It Can do for Yours. Reiki and a healthy lifestyle contributed to her healing after a 20-year struggle with neurological and chronic pain issues. She comes out the other side with a new perspective on life and now seeks to empower others, guiding them back to their own innate healing abilities. You can follow her at: angie-webster-healing.thinkific.com, https://www.facebook.com/HolisticSpirituality, http://www.serenityenergyhealing.com/