Article by Ashwita Goel, Reiki Master
It is a beautiful thing to watch balanced, assertive people handle difficult life situations. Most of us are conditioned to respond to perceived threats through fight or flight responses – submissiveness or aggression. While aggressive people seem powerful to most, that is not really the case. The aggression is just a mask to hide the lack of power they are experiencing.
So, both aggressive as well as submissive people benefit tremendously by taking their power back. But what does this mean?
Submissive: Those who don’t know how to say ‘no’. These people end up doing a whole lot of things that they don’t want to do. Those who are very submissive will end up taking on way more than they can handle, which means they will end up letting a lot of people down. They then also tend to be very apologetic, saying and feeling sorry very frequently. They tend to take the blame for everything.
Example for a submissive response: “I’m so sorry, it’s just not possible for me to do this. I’m so stuck with my job, my boss really overloads me and I come home so tired, I don’t know what to do.”
Aggressive: These people are just the opposite. They say no a bit too forcefully, and have little regard for others’ feelings or personal space. They often encourage others to do things for them through flattery or manipulation. They have a tendency to blame others for everything that goes wrong.
Example for an aggressive response: “Why should I do this? Don’t I have anything better to do?”
Assertive: While there may be some people who are naturally assertive, assertion is usually learned behaviour, or develops a result of healing personal anger and power issues. These people are able to clearly state their difficulty/ needs without encroaching on the personal space of others.
Example for assertive response: “I can’t do this right now because I’m tied up with something else at the moment. Does tomorrow work?”
There are articles that help you deal with this from the level of the mind, to help you go from being submissive or aggressive to being assertive. However, taking the energy approach heals this from the root cause, and assertive responses become much more genuine, and thereby more effective.
Work with the Solar Plexus and Thighs
If you seek any kind of healing, healing all the chakras on your body, both front and back, is very important. Otherwise, the problems can just shift to another chakra temporarily. If you wish to resolve power issues, heal all the points every day. When you come to these specific points, you can do the following.
Step 1 (21 days): Heal the solar plexus as well as thighs, using all the symbols if you have learned the higher levels, with a desire to heal all power related issues. While you are healing your solar plexus, mentally request your body to prioritise healing your power related issues, and to bring up any hidden problems in this regard. It is wise to do this only when you have no other pressing issue to resolve, as it might lead to erratic behaviour, mood swings, aches or fatigue.
You might need to continue just step 1 for 2-3 weeks to clear out suppressed issues. If you sense that the issues you are working with are really deep, do it for 3 months.
Step 2 (21 days): Visualise the power symbol within the solar plexus, and hold this image in a meditative space for as long as is comfortable. The effect of this will be temporary if the previous step is not complete. Do this only after step 1 is over.
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Having learned Meditation as a child, Ashwita incorporated Reiki into her life during her early teens. After a decade of witnessing the magic Reiki, she felt compelled to take up Reiki professionally, and ended her corporate career in 2007, taking up Reiki full-time. She eventually incorporated EFT, hypnotherapy and past life therapy into her work. Apart from her healing work, she teaches Reiki and meditation, and her book ‘Healing Through Reiki’ is available on Amazon. You can connect with her through Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Reiki.Bangalore,
her website http://www.reiki-bangalore.com/ or visit her blog http://www.ashwita.com/zen/