Article by Angie Webster
When we have a relationship in our lives that becomes distant or is feeling ruffled by conflict, of course we want everyone involved to feel better as quickly as possible. Our first urge may be to want everything to go back to the way it was before the issue arose. It was what we knew and it was comfortable. But maybe the relationship or the people in it needed to evolve and the conflict that arose was a way of allowing for that. Of course it still feels uncomfortable.
When you have a relationship that is in conflict, the first person you must send healing to is yourself. You can only tend to the relationship and the other person with a clear head and a clear heart once you are able to bring balance back to your own soul. Take the time to be by yourself in a quiet space that feels calm, peaceful and safe to you. Let yourself breathe deeply and release the emotions that have accumulated from the conflict and do self Reiki for several minutes, focusing on the head and the heart. Allow yourself to be guided to any other areas that feel appropriate, as we hold emotion in many different areas of the body.
Once you feel more at peace, you may wish to send healing to the relationship. Remember that healing can take many forms. It may not mean that things go back to the way they were. It could mean that the relationship evolves to a new form or even that it dissolves. Be at peace with whatever the healing brings. Allow your intent for healing to be only for the peace and happiness for all parties involved. Send it from a place of complete unconditional love and release the rest to the Universe.
After sending healing to the relationship, imagine your higher self walking down a peaceful flower lined path. It is a sunny day and the clouds are drifting by like fluffy blankets. You can smell the aroma of the flowers and hear the birds singing. Visualize the scene clearly. You are walking to meet the higher self of your loved one. As you get closer to your meeting place, imagine a lovely table where you will sit and talk. Decorate it with flowers and anything else you feel your loved one’s higher self might enjoy as a gift. You are offering the gifts of love, freedom, peace, and joy. You can freely manifest any item that represents these things to your higher self and the higher self of your loved one. Offer these gifts and talk to your loved one’s higher self. Tell him or her that you wish for their happiness and for yours as well. Offer forgiveness. Accept forgiveness in your own heart, as well. Once you feel you are both feeling healed in your hearts, embrace and then return back down the flower lined path you came from.
We’ve all experienced growing pains in our relationships and even the best relationship has disagreements. It can help to try to see the opportunity for growth in each new change in our relationships. That can allow room in our hearts to do our best, send healing and then step back and see what the Universe has to offer.
Angie Webster is a Reiki Master, Teacher, and Author. Angie’s primary focus is animal Reiki, which she adores. She teaches online classes on energy healing, flower essences, herbalism, and personal growth. Angie often works with nature healing and Earth healing, hoping to better understand our connection with Mother Earth. Angie is the author of Animal Reiki: How it Heals, Teaches & Reconnects Us with Nature and Reiki from A to Z. You can follow her at: angie-webster-healing.teachable.com and on Facebook (facebook.com/angiewebsterhealing).